How to get over someone I still have to see because of our children?

[alicejacob517]

I wish I could just cut contact completely but because of our young children, obviously I can't. Every time I receive a text from him or have to see him I'm right back at square one. He is having a baby with someone else now and the pain is almost too much. Advice please, I so want to move on with my life and be happy

I don't think there is any quick fix, I take it you weren't ready to end the relationship? What's your relationship like now?

@borntohula

I don't think there is any quick fix, I take it you weren't ready to end the relationship? What's your relationship like now?

I wasn't, no. He cheated and she is now pregnant. We have an amicable relationship but I am still in love with him. I just want my life back.

OP, you might want that now but you actually deserve a life either happy single or with someone who won't treat you like that. You want what you thought you had but he's made a mockery of it and will prob do the same to his new gf. What do your friends and family say about it?

It will take time. I was in a similar position, my husband had an affair when our youngest was 6 months old and the other women Was pregnant within 6 months. Our divorce came through 2 months after they had the baby and they married a month after that. I initially asked family/friends to do the change over with the children this lasted about 18 months as I was just so upset seeing him. It definitely got better after this point and I was able to wave the children goodbye. Still don’t really speak to him much, just let him know how much extra I need for the boys activities/clothes etc.. each month. So glad we aren’t together and don’t know why I ever saw in him but it was tough for the first couple of years 😢

@borntohula

OP, you might want that now but you actually deserve a life either happy single or with someone who won't treat you like that. You want what you thought you had but he's made a mockery of it and will prob do the same to his new gf. What do your friends and family say about it?

They think he is a prick and want me to move on, I want to move on too. Just unsure how when I still have to see him and have contact :(

I had a friend whose husband left her while she was in hospital after just having given birth to twins. His new partner was with him, wearing friend’s clothes, from her closet.

Her parents did all the exchanges for two years. Friend eventually remarried, and is veey happy. She could eventually interact with the ex and even his wife.

You WILL get over him and will eventually wonder what you saw in him, speaking from personal experience. It will take time and the best thing you can do is keep busy, keep talking to people, pastimes that you really enjoy and if you don't already exercise, it really helps. This is all practical advice, I know it's difficult mentally but now is a perfect time to focus on you.