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Flying solo

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mamaof2girls · 01/06/2020 06:55

Got a 2 week old and a 18 month old partner away back to work today so flying solo and looking after the 2 girls myself. Please tell me it's easier than what am stressing 🙈🙈 little one had abit off a rough night last night so hoping they will sleep at the same time today haha! X

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SonEtLumiere · 01/06/2020 08:09

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Stompythedinosaur · 01/06/2020 08:31

That was the age difference I had with my dc. It wasn't easy. The things that helped me were a good sling for the baby (started with a stretchy wrap style and when on to a woven wrap when the baby was bigger) and having a pile of stuff to do with dc1 to hand when breastfeeding (snacks, books to read, stickers etc).

SiaPR · 01/06/2020 08:35

I read this and thought... I don’t think one adult is allowed to fly with two children under two.
Whaaat? Yes they can.
I thought it was about flying too, not being at home with your own children which is a very normal occurrence.

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mamaof2girls · 01/06/2020 08:45

Thanks everyone for the advice managed to get all the house work done this morning washing on etc so am happy with that! Yes I know it's a normal occurrence doesn't mean that you can't be nervous on how it's going to go on my first day alone with them specially since I have had my partner for 2 weeks who's done a lot with my 18 month old while I have fed and settled my newborn

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Stompythedinosaur · 01/06/2020 11:04

My other advice is to leave as much of the housework as you need to your partner when they get home. Don't set your sights too high, your job is to keep yourself and the dc alive, anything else is a bonus.

SonEtLumiere · 02/06/2020 06:50

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KelpHelper · 02/06/2020 07:14

Well, initially read it as literally about flying solo in a light aircraft.

Ifionlyhadahorse · 02/06/2020 09:07

Do you mean the book book by Erica Jong ?

SiaPR · 05/06/2020 05:53

I know this is a complete derail for the OP, but it is one adult per child until their second birthday. Certainly in the UK, and I have double checked on the BA, EasyJet and Ryanair booking sites.
Perhaps the OP is not planning to travel, with two under 2, but there may be people reading who are.
So parents of twins can never travel? It means you can't take two infants on your lap. You can take more kids if you pay for a seat. On all those airlines you mentioned.

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SiaPR · 05/06/2020 07:12

That is simply not true. Where are you getting this information?

Passthecake30 · 05/06/2020 07:22

I have the same gap between my two, it was hard until the 2nd was able to sit up (in a bumbo) and interact. The hardest thing I found was the lack of sleep and monotony. Anyway, on a positive note, the eldest was able to get involved in passing things, helping empty the washing machine, etc, it’s a good age as they love to help. I remember having a bit of a routine for activities that helped structure my day and ensure that I did actually play with my eldest for a some time - eg. Musical toys at 11, small world people after lunch and the tv didn’t go on until about 4.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 05/06/2020 07:25

I think you can fly, but they have to have a plane registered car seat, as they can't be harnessed safely without it for landing, take off etc.

But back to the ACTUAL question... You can do this. If you are BFing, make sure the toddler is happy and occupied (with an accessible drink, snacks etc) before you feed.
Don't feel guilty about CBeebies, Peppa pig etc
Try to get out for a walk every day. I uded to time it for one of babies naps, ending up in the park so I could then have a good play with toddler, but that's out for now.

Good luck! Mine are 7&8 now, nearly 9, and although it's had its ups and downs I love how close they are.

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SiaPR · 05/06/2020 07:56

Ah. You can't book online with more than one under two. (Because you need a seat for one of them) you have to call them, but they will all carry one adult with more than one infant.

SiaPR · 05/06/2020 08:01

Actually I stand corrected about Ryanair, they won't take 2 babies, but real airlines do.

CoveredInBeeeees · 05/06/2020 08:30

but real airlines do

Yes, on the times I’ve used Ryanair, I always wondered why they used Happyland planes and I never actually got anywhere.

How bizarre to get quite so hung up on such a need to be right about the intricacies of all airlines. Chuck it in with a lack of empathy for others and it’s looking like a good morning all round, isn’t it?

OP, I was bricking it on my first day alone with two under two. Totally remember how you felt. It’s hard to see it’ll be ok when you’re totally sleep deprived, hormonal and likely well out of routine. Fortunately I think I had the same support you’ve had from others. You just do it somehow, and like a PP said, keep your bar low - everyone fed, no-one dead. You’ll get into the swing of it all soon enough. Good luck Smile

SiaPR · 05/06/2020 08:36

How bizarre to get quite so hung up on such a need to be right about the intricacies of all airlines. Chuck it in with a lack of empathy for others and it’s looking like a good morning all round, isn’t it?
Eh? It’s a conversation. You ok?

monkey4nuthin · 05/06/2020 09:14

This thread has totally been derailed but I flew to NZ and back by myself with an 8 week old and 20 month old, just had to book a seat for the toddler. (It was not a great trip!)

Back to the OP, hope your week has been ok. Take each day as it comes and don't worry too much about housework etc, try to enjoy your girls and definitely encourage sleeping at the same time!

sk283 · 05/06/2020 09:26

Well done @mamaoftwogirls. Sounds like you've had a good morning and you've got this nailed.

And I imagine they'll be some good days and some not so good days. But if at the end of the day you've got two healthy, happy fed babies and you're happy and healthy and fed. The housework can wait 😂😂😂
Hope the rest of the week goes ok and you're recovering well. 2 weeks post partum is not a long time. Just because OH has gone to work, they do have to help in the evenings too.
Good luck

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mamaof2girls · 05/06/2020 10:21

Thanks everyone for the support the week did start off good but Tuesday we realised little one has silent reflux so go put on Gaviscon first day or so was good not since yesterday and today she has been still screaming and I think it's making her constipated yesterday she did do a poo but I would have said it was more off a paste not like her normal ones and she was struggling being it so that's been hard! So not sure if to use the gaviscon we have witch is only for the next few days and see how we get on or phone gp/hv to try something else. Anyone else has experience in this? My first had colic and normal reflux and we only used colic drops with her and worked amazing so didn't have the problem off trying different things! X

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mamaof2girls · 05/06/2020 10:23

Also recovery I have been pretty lucky. Completely different from my first labour was so much quicker didn't need the epidural was only in hospital 2 hours and had her was home 6 hours after having her and didn't even need 1 stitch think by day 2/3 I was up doing the housework putting washing on like I hadn't just giving birth! X

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sk283 · 05/06/2020 11:50

@mamaof2girls
Wow!!! That's incredible. Glad you're recovering so well!! You total legend!

With reflux, not much experience with that I'm afraid

Passthecake30 · 05/06/2020 14:45

Are you breastfeeding? As fennel tea (me drinking it, 3 times a day), sorted out my dds stomach, before then she was throwing up entire feeds and losing weight, the tea was a miracle cure.

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mamaof2girls · 05/06/2020 14:57

Nope formula feeding she isn't sick it's just obv the pain that's bothering her! But she has been gaining weight perfect she was 6.2 at birth lost a oz in the first 5 days then went up to to 6.7 within a week she gets weighed again Tuesday! X

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