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Am i being unreasonable?!?

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Tambent12 · 31/05/2020 16:59

Hello im just wanting some advice about my bbaby

Me and my childs father are still together he also has full parental responsibility and is a really good father to our child.

However i do not allow her round her grandparents house ( the fathers family)after a family feud because i feel she is not safe when she is round there as they drink alot of alcohol and take other substances, have a massive dog who has bitten my child and i had to take her hospital, it is not baby proof and she often hurts herself.

His family are always welcome to come to and see there grandad daughter at our house whenever they like even if im not there as i dont want them to feel uncomfortable by me being there as long as her father is there also its fine however they have not turned up.

My partner says he wants to take my daughter there as its his child and he wants his family to be able to interact with our daughter however i do not want her in there house

Legally can he take her to there house without my permission even though I’ve stressed this is a danger To my child?

Its causing alot of arguments between me and my partner and i dont want to seem out of order but i really feel like im doing whats best for my child.

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nicsknackered · 31/05/2020 17:02

Their dog bit your baby, they drink, take drugs and she regularly hurts herself when there? No way in the world would my child be going to visit, you have said they are welcome at your house so you aren't depriving them of seeing her you're just keeping her safe.

YADNBU.

OnlyJudyCanJudgeMe · 31/05/2020 17:03

Yes, legally he can take her, BUT if he took her & she got injured, I wouldn’t be allowing him contact with her again unless supervised via a court order.
Tell him this & tell him you WILL contact social services if your DD gets hurt in his care.

Tambent12 · 31/05/2020 17:08

Okay thank you so much just didnt have anyone to talk to about this and keep feeling guilty but im 100% putting my foot down on this one.

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june2007 · 31/05/2020 17:08

What do you mean she often hurts herself? How in what circumstance? When was the last time she went to the house. (you say often but then say she isn,t allowed there.)

Tambent12 · 31/05/2020 17:15

As in the front door gets left open and she will run outside and i have to chase after her, there is mess every where and even though i try and keep her in the living room where i feel its safest, everyone will keep opening doors and saying “oh just leave her” she also was given food to hot for her by his mother who was drunk i told my partner to cheak it first and he didnt cheak it properly and she burnt her tounge gets hold of small objects and put them in her mouth im just so on edge when im there.

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heartsonacake · 31/05/2020 17:16

Legally, yes, he can take her there. As her father he can take her anywhere he wants.

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