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[Suzieredhead]

Can you give me some advice on pushing through the anxiety of setting up.

I’m having zero supports off my husband ( who owns his own business) I’ve been a SAHM for the past ten years and been too reliant on him to make decisions for me.

I need some one to give my head a wobble and telly me that they did it by themselves too.

I’m getting over whelmed by all the paper work I need to do regarding my business dealing with the estate agent over the lease, finding a solicitor for the contract, order all the stock, hire employees as do online courses whilst looking after two small kids.

Honestly he has gone when I get this up and running as I can see very clearly he is a selfish twat but that’s another thread.

My anxiety is sky high but I need to get my shit together so I can leave and have my own income.

Any advice is greatly welcome.

Good luck. I have worked from home since 1994 but without a lease and deliberately no employees so not as difficult as you (and my husband did more than I did in terms of childcare and house cleaning as he is a teacher).

It sounds like you have made a very good start. Is it a business which requires a lease and employees to operate such as a shop?

I'm a single parent and have been since day 1. It's really hard but I think the best thing you can do is write lists for each area of your business etc you need to do e.g. lease, business training, admin etc.
Then break each list down into small manageable tasks, and focus on one step only at a time. As long as you are doing small chunks you are taking small steps towards the larger plan and it will help you feel in control. Don't worry about doing everything. Tiny steps, with an end goal in sight. Don't worry if your plans seem unachievable or foggy. Take the first small obvious step and the next one will become clear. You can always revise your plans later. Maybe calendarise small items to regularly focus on e.g. phone reminder once a week to do 10 minutes on xx. Then you will be taking tiny steps regularly. The key is reminders, regularly in small doses. Tiny actions build up. it is stressful but this will give you a sense of control and ownership over taking charge.

First of all, make a daily list of what needs to be done for the day.

Secondly, could you go ahead and hire a person to help with all the admin as you're getting ready to open? They could even work from home.

Third, could you hire a nanny to come to your home, at least part-time to watch after the children while you get work done?

Thanks for the replies

Xenia yes it’s a shop.

Magic that’s a good idea. I’ll set reminders. I’m looking at the whole picture instead of small areas and it’s making it difficult to stay on path and achieve things

Aqua the paper work has to be done by me as I need to put quite a few policies together. I’d love a nanny but can’t afford one. Husband keeps saying he will take kids out - but has been in bed all day with another migraine. Same when I was supposed to do a e-course last night.