Just need some moral support please

[Multiplejoblosses]

I am having such a low day. My dh is probably (almost certainly) about to lose his job (not coronavirus related) for the third time in 3 years. The last time he was unemployed for 9 months. We survived on savings and my paltry earnings. His current job was well paid and in a different location we really want to move to but we havent been able to move yet as we are waiting for our youngest to finish school. Dh has been commuting long distances daily in the meantime.

But the job hasn't proved to be what he wanted, the company has been taken over by another firm, and now dh has been scapegoated by his boss who is hell bent on seeing dh sacked. Obviously dh is actively searching for new work but this is hard at his level of senior management at the best of times. It will be night on impossible in corona times.

We have seen our dream of relocating evaporate. We are just about getting back on an even keel after his last period of unemployment. Soon we will be back to subsistence living.

I am so tired but cant sleep for worry. I feel sick all the time. I am so so fed up of being dependent on the whim of others. We should be looking forward to retirement now but instead we are scratching about, wondering how we will weather this crisis.

This is an unashamed pity party. We have weathered so many storms but I feel I have no energy to weather this one. Any words of comfort or advice please?

Storms always seem worse when you are waiting for them to happen. I'm in the middle of one at the moment and the reality is easier than the anticipation was, there are good days and bad days but the good days when you don't think of it or can deal with it get more frequent. It's hard, of course, but you get to cope with it one way or the other.

Has your husband considered a different career direction which might be more stable?

Thank you @bonsaidragon. I know, you are right, anticipation is always worse than the reality. I am just so tired of scrabbling.

Sadly, pretty much all work in industry is lacking in job security. DH would love to run his own business but I was only reading here earlier about people's pipedreams, what business they would start if they were given a million pounds. You need the money in the first place...

Where would you like to relocate? Nothing's impossible OP.

OP, this bit leapt out at me:

"I am so so fed up of being dependent on the whim of others"

Would either of you have the option of going self employed? I took the plunge last year after not being able to stick a moment longer of being told what to do by someone else. It was scary but has panned out well.

I realise that this is not possible for everyone.

Op, there is one good thing in the gloom. No-one is going to bat an eyelid if his cv says he left his last employer in summer 2020.