I'm a mug

[Cherry111]

Basically that, my purpose in life is to seemingly cook and pick shit up after my family. I am so unhappy right now. I hate my life and I don’t really like my family much either. They just do whatever they like and I just run around after everyone like a dick. I’m sick of it and I feel like I have no purpose in life other than looking after other people. I know I’m a martyr and feel like a victim and I don’t know how to change it or what to do. I am a complete people pleaser but it’s draining the life out of me and I can’t find any joy in anything at the moment. My 20 year old son totally takes me for granted, I heard a conversation with him and his Dad and he was like “oh thanks for this Dad, thanks for that” all he’s ever shown him is money. My partner is the thief of joy and my toddler is a demanding moan/whinger.
So... have I to exercise, have a bath, or go for a walk? Expect I can’t as I have no time to myself. Ideas?

Look after your toddler, and let the others take care of themselves; they're certainly old enough.

give your toddler to your dp with a cheery "there you go, you two get to spend some time together", open the front door and off you go.
Do not answer your phone. Return when you're ready.
Do that at least once a week from now until forever.

What is stopping you telling your partner that you're going out for a walk and going out for a couple of hours now!

I am a complete people pleaser

There's the issue right there. You can't say 'no' or be assertive and stand up for yourself. Tackle that and you have a chance of being happy.

Good luck

Are you me. I just had a little moan the other day, no one took me seriously so today l have been a cow.

Straight after breakfast l had all school work done with no drama (l needed a very stern face and l know it’s Sunday but if your gonna spend all your time on mine craft and YouTube whilst l am at work and have no interaction input from daddy well it’s up to you all actions have consequences).

I sorted the washing out made them put it away and do the cleaning of their bedrooms. I made lunch then made them clear up. My son asked dh to come into the garden and push him on the swing, he said ask mum l’m having a sleep.

I went in reminded him he hadn’t got up till 11, was still eating breakfast by 12 then had lunch at 2.30 if he thinks he can sleep his afternoon away he has another thing coming and lm on strike.

Mine do actually do things generally but whilst l am off it’s like l am at their personal beck and call to climb on, lean on, walk past dh with their arm falling off to tell me. When l am eating tea they ask for a drink and expect me to get it, well they used to l put a stop to that months ago. I can’t wait to go to work tomorrow.

I miss the day off mid week by myself so do much.