I divorced my ex husband, let's call him Bob, on the grounds of his unreasonable behaviour - coercive control and emotional abuse.
We were part of the same friendship group. I do not attend gatherings to which Bob is invited, and on the whole, this group of friends has been very thoughtful and tactful about how to support us both, including not inviting him to certain events so I can still socialise with them as a group. They are not my 'best friends' (who now have no contact with Bob) and I really enjoy their company.
One of the men in the group, Jack, has told one of the women in the group, Laura, that they are not doing enough to support my ex, that I left the marriage and they should be more aware of how hurt he is. Jack asked Laura if 'there is another side of the story' that he should be aware of. Laura said Jack would have to ask me.
Jack has not been in contact with me since I left my ex 2 years ago. He lives further away than all the other friends so has only heard Bob's side of the story - that I went mad and left him for no reason.
Should I contact Jack and explain it is not as clear cut as it seems, it was an abusive marriage?
I don't care what Jack thinks - he is a bit dim, but I do care about Lucy.
Is there anything I can do to help the situation, or just leave well alone and enjoy their company as and when I can?
I am likely to see Jack around once very year or two for weddings etc and I do not want there to be an atmosphere.
All thoughts appreciated.