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Anxiety and possible PND 10 months after 2nd baby

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381gkw · 29/05/2020 21:00

Hi I’m a mum of a four year old and 1 year old. Both pregnancy’s were good but my second daughters birth was traumatic and I felt I lost the happy birthing experience. When I was home I struggled to bond the first few days and had the baby blues. I over came them and put my birth to the back of my mind having the odd moment of worry I wasn’t bonding with her as well as I’m eldest. 10months later I start getting anxiety, fearing for the girls when they weren’t with me. It came from no where and got worse with me suffering anxiety in my every day life up to the point when I was at work I burst into tears. Simple tasks have become difficult with constant self doubt. I’m having counselling now and on medication which is slowly helping but my counsellor has suggested I have post natal depression due to things I’ve told her. I can see what she’s saying but didn’t think it was possible for it to appear 10 months after my daughter was born?? Is anyone else having similar experiences?
It sounds silly but my husband made a light hearted comment that my eldest was a mummy’s girl but my youngest was a daddy’s girl, this just really upset me and got really worried about her not loving me. Stupid I know!!

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Marlena1 · 29/05/2020 21:24

Please don't read too much into the comment. She is far too young to have favourites like that and she loves you. I strongly suspect looking back that I had PND after my second (birth was fine but she cried and cried for 18th months which I found extremely difficult) but she is way more of a mammy's girl (although slightly changing now). You are going through a very sressful time, with two young children and it's narural that you will overthink and feel guilty (about everything). Sorry I don't have advice as such, I just look back and remember how hard it was. Hang in there, you have done great to address it.

Summer776 · 29/05/2020 22:30

I didn't fully accept I had PND with my second until she was

nearly a year old..during CBT income.tonthe realisation I had symptoms the first time around but with my second it was.amifoed by several.other major life events..my 2 are the same age gap as your two.

381gkw · 29/05/2020 22:31

Thank you for your comment, I know she loves me and I know it’s silly but it just trigger more anxious thoughts. This all started before the lock down and obviously thing deteriorated but I’m getting there :)

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