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I'm not being present for my DC

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NellMangel · 28/05/2020 20:19

Apologies for strange title I cant think how to describe how I'm feeling. I've been on my own with 5yo in lockdown for 2 months now. I'm at the point where I dont feel like I've got anything left to give. I've shut down a bit. He seems happy enough but I'm getting snappy and wanting time out, and I dont like that about myself. I've felt tearful today whereas before now I was quite enjoying the simplicity of life.

Has anyone else experienced this?

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GettingUntrapped · 28/05/2020 22:37

Me too. Single mother of two boys, 13 and eight. Very hard to be cheerful and present. Not much left of me. No time alone. Incarcerated and suffering.

Gunpowder · 28/05/2020 22:40

I’ve realised that school and nursery really help me to be a better mum in that I can be much more present if I have a bit of time ‘off’ from my kids. One thing that is helping a bit is doing 30 minutes of Pilates every day. It’s non-negotiable. It gives me a bit of headspace. I still do zone out a bit. Blush

Honestly though, you all sound like great mums. I have four DC and they are ignored so much. I’m hoping the boredom and benign neglect will inspire them to be creative. Grin I remember being bored ALL THE TIME as a kid in the 80s/90s.

Gunpowder · 28/05/2020 22:41

Sorry just to clarify, mine aren’t at school/nursery atm so wasn’t being smug! Just meant I miss it dearly.

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ThedietstartsonMonday · 28/05/2020 22:43

I've found my people!
Two months locked down and working from home with my 8 year old DD and I'm losing the will!
Been told I'll be working from home until at least the end of September and my DD doesn't fit into the year groups allowed to go back to school.
The thought of how long this is going to go on for is soul destroying.
Her attitude and behaviour was testing before lockdown, it's gradually getting worse.
She is putting on weight from the constant snacks and lack of exercise (yes we go on a walk and she has access to bikes, scooter, garden but at this point she would rather watch TV all day (which allows me to work so I don't argue too much anymore).
I don't have the time or mental strength to argue and get her to 'homeschool' as well as do my demanding job for 8 hours a day.
I just want to be on my own.
It's all just a big fat pile of shit.
Finding it harder and harder to stay positive and by the evening I am so grumpy, I just want to go to bed so I don't have to talk to anyone.

runrabbitrunrunrun · 28/05/2020 22:48

Give yourself a break! This isn’t easy for anyone. Stop judging yourself!
Do you get outside much? Daily walks really are a saviour. I also find my mh is a lot better when I delete social media apps.

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