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AIBU? Advice needed please

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Missquad83 · 28/05/2020 10:15

Hi ladies. I am struggling with something and wanted some advice please. So here goes. I am a key worker and work 3 days a week whilst my hubby works from home the days I’m not working. We have 2 boys 7 and 2. My sil is also a key worker and a single mum. She takes dn (her daughter) to school on the days she’s working. On a few occasions she has asked for help picking dn from school as she finishes work late. I am ok with helping pick dn on my days off and hubby same but usually sil asks us a few minutes before school closes which I find annoying. I told her that i am more than happy to help with pick up on my days off but would like a days notice and not to be told short notice to which she obliged. Recently though she had hinted at wanting me to babysit dn on my days off but I find it hard already with the 2 boys especially as the toddler is a handful atm. I am happy to watch dn for a few hours but not full days. AIBU to only offer a few hours between pickup and when she finishes work? I know it’s tough for her but I’m struggling myself. Please help.

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heartsonacake · 28/05/2020 10:16

YANBU. You need to do what’s best for your family.

YABU to use the word “hubby” though.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 28/05/2020 10:17

So she wants you to babysit when she’s not working? I assume because she wants a break?

Missquad83 · 28/05/2020 10:19

@onlyfoolsnmothers no she wants me to babysit while she’s at work on my days off. @heartsonacake 🤭 noted lol

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 28/05/2020 10:20

Oh I see. I mean YANBU to say no to look after anyone’s child- and two are a handful enough- however what are her other options during lockdown?

Missquad83 · 28/05/2020 10:23

@onlyfoolsnmothers I suppose that’s why I feel bad because I’m not sure what her other options are other than school. And the fact that we are family but I truly don’t feel up to the task.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 28/05/2020 10:27

Could there be some compromise where by she takes your sons for a day in return?
Tbh I would just say you’re really sorry but you just don’t have it in you to watch 3 kids all day (god knows I wouldn’t).

Missquad83 · 28/05/2020 10:46

@ OnlyFoolsnMothers I don’t particularly need her to help with the boys atm. I suppose I wanted to know if it was u reasonable of me to only offer pick up after school and what options may be possible. It’s tough 😓

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 28/05/2020 10:51

YANBU, you aren’t responsible for her childcare, shit situation but she could have options you don’t know about

Missquad83 · 28/05/2020 11:12

@onlyfoolsnmothers @heartsonacake thank you for taking time to answer. Needed another opinion x

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