Turning 40 next week in lockdown(ish) and feeling really blah about it

[Moanitywhine]

Anyone else had or having a 40 crisis?

Okay sorry for the whine post but I have no one in real life to talk to about this.

I turn 40 next week. I haven’t achieved the life goals I wanted to at this stage. My career is a mess / over. I have been trying for another child for 2 years now and it’s not going to happen. And I’ve gained weight without doing anything different, can’t shift it, and my boobs are really droopy. (I’m not overweight, just not at my happy weight.)

Also been trying to move for the past year and that’s not going to happen for a while now!

Big giant whine and complain because I know there are lovely things in my life apart from that. But AAAH!

Anyone else had a freak out when they turned 40? Can’t rouse myself out of this funk.

No one else had a 40 freak out?

(My post was rather ranty! )

I’m a few years ahead of you and have a birthday this week. But I feel so blah too, if I could just cancel it I’d feel no different. I’m coming to the end of furlough and could even start the redundancy process on my birthday. I want to go back to work but not sure my job exists. So could be looking for a new job. DS is missing so much while this is going on. My dad is Ill so I can add see him or mum. I know things could be so
much worse but I just can’t muster any enthusiasm for a celebration right now. Guess
I’ll be earning my first Oscar this week.

We need to focus on what we can do rather than what we can’t or haven’t

Oh pinkazing that sounds rubbish! Your poor dad.

Birthday pity parties all round!

I keep thinking maybe I should try the gratitude stuff, anything to shake me out of this funk!

Aw don’t worry - we all think of the negative sides of what we don’t have. How about considering the things you have achieved? E.g you say another child so you presumably have at least 1 child already - a lot of people don’t have that by the age of 40 if not ever so that’s something to feel good about. There’s probably all sorts of silver linings like that that you’ve not thought about!

Lockdown birthdays are definitely very strange though

You may see me drunkenly ranting on here later in the week. Not a healthy way to deal with it. But I will party with my friends properly when this is over. Happy 40th for next week, my best friend celebrated hers as a ‘can’t believe I actually made it party’ so celebrated it as an achievement, rather than a countdown and definitely nothing was over just more time to achieve things.

You’re right, ukulele! I have been feeling quite guilty that, under my fog, I haven’t been the most enthusiastic mum these last few weeks. (Ironic, really!)

Definitely time to start listing the good things.

Ha! I think drunken rants are needed sometimes!

Love that your friend had a “thank god I made it” party. Love the attitude of more time to achieve things!

Happy birthday!