Do you regret how much you spent or your wedding?

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Prompted by a wedding thread, whilst I absolutely LOVED my wedding and it was all saved and paid for without debt, I do occasionally think that I could have had a new kitchen by now instead

Spent around £300 and have no regrets. We had an amazing day.

No, but we could have spent far more without going into debt (we spent about £5k, and had savings but no house when we got married). If I were talking to my younger self, I'd suggest fewer guests, but not reducing the budget.

Nope. We had 13 people on the Italian coast, and it was perfect. It wasnt cheap (although it was A LOT cheaper than an average wedding in the UK) but we saved, didnt get into debt, paid for it all ourselves and still managed to buy a house 6 months later so it didnt take money from that. It was the best week and the best day of our lives. We did it exactly how we wanted it, not how anyone else wanted it. Not a single regret.

Yes, it was far too much. What upsets me the most is as life has gone we have lost contact with nearly all the guests so when I look at my photos it's mostly with people I don't really see anymore. I particularly cringe at how much I spent on lace for all the chairs. So much money on crap that made no difference whatsoever.

We spent £15,000 on ours 10 years ago. It makes me feel sick now. More because I was only 20 and a lot of places (our venue being the main one) saw me coming and I think overcharged because they could. It was a lovely day, but nothing flashy. We did it without getting into debt though, and our parents paid for some things. But a few months after getting married we found a house we loved and decided to move, having spent most of our savings on the wedding and honeymoon. We still did it, it wasn't easy but we did it. I just think it would have been so much easier with the £9k we'd put towards it all, but hey ho.

No. It did seem crazy at the time but we did everything we wanted. I recently had a cancer diagnosis and when faced with my own mortality I looked back on my life and I was glad of all the experiences I have had. Not to say that it needs to be expensive to enjoy it but I'm glad I didn't compromise.

We spent about 10k but that included a very large house for all our family and wedding party to stay in over the weekend. Worth every penny.

We spent a fair whack, but we could afford it. We didn't go into debt and had the best two weeks of wedding, partying and honeymooning.

I loved our day, and our friends still talk about our wedding as being a bloody party.

Bloody brilliant party!!

No but we were lucky enough to have money from both sets of parents towards it, plus healthy savings from deployments (him) and overtime (me when he was away). We already owned our own home so that wasn’t a factor. Our parents contributing meant we still had a healthy amount of savings at the end and where we could save we did. We were initially going to have a small wedding but it became bigger due to a change in family circumstances. Loved our day and everyone still comments how wonderful it was.

Spent a bloody fortune and don’t regret a penny!

Je ne regrette rien

Fabulous day. £8k 10 years ago (plus the same again on a totally epic honeymoon that lasted 3 months and was like something on Race Across the World )

100 guests, beautiful location in our county that meant I could go hill walking in my wedding dress in one of my favourite places.

It was actually good value as I made a lot of the trimmings of things like jewelery and stationery through the engagement. I got a plain cake on the market and DIYed the trimmings. Flowers from the market. Wedding car was from a farmer who hires it out for pockey money. We could easily have spent double to get the same effect by going for more corporate suppliers.

I always feel a glow of happiness when I look at the photos and remember all the people I love together at the same time.

Not at all, and we spent a lot! It was honestly the most perfect day for us, and we had a fantastic time. I’d not change a thing.

Ooh good question - I often wonder this! Ours was about £25k altogether 5 years ago (we paid half and my parents paid half) and we have never regretted it. We could do with some of that money now I guess (2 kids and looking to move house) but we were of the opinion at the time that you can ‘always make more money’ and we were only ever going to do it once and we both wanted the big do. We discussed at length at the time whether we really wanted to spend that kind of money and both felt we might be more likely to regret not having the whole shebang in years to come once children and responsibilities happened. It was like our one last big splurge before we became parents I guess!

I didn't really enjoy it and it would have paid for a new roof. It just came at a time when work had paid for our house move so it was the money we would have paid for that. But no, I'd elope next time.

Nope! We spent a fortune and I remember at the time thinking I was really going to enjoy it as we'd never be able to justify it later in life with kids.

It was my dream wedding and to this day money well spent. Memories I'll treasure forever.

No because we eloped to avoid all that shit.

We had a small wedding. Won all our money back in a las Vegas casino on honeymoon too!

No because we kept it low key - about £2k (in 2015)

Spent £5k, 5 years ago which was plenty.had a fab day

No, but it wasn't our money so that probably makes it easier to feel sanguine! Probably about £30k+ though I've forgotten the details. I'd have been happy with a very small, cheap, relaxed party but in-laws wanted something big and traditional for their culture. In-laws paid by far the largest share (£20k +), we put in some, and my parents gave us about £5k.

It does seem a crazy amount of money, and I admit to feeling uneasy about what that sum would mean for other people. However this was standard for my in-laws and it wasn't going to be spent on anything else, just used to make more money I expect. They are lovely and we made most of the decisions too so they weren't using it to exert control. It was an amazing day.

I don't regret it as such. We didn't get into debt or anything. But yes I could have spent the money on better more long lasting things than favours and flowers.

No, we spent less than average (about 7k 5 years ago plus the same on honeymoon) but were gifted money from family, for which I know we are incredibly lucky.

My sister got married last october and spent about 3.5 times that. My only advice to her was to get married after buying the house so that she wouldn't regret not spending the money on a deposit instead (dh and i also bought our house first). She did and as far as I'm aware has no regrets either.

Both days were wonderful.

Nope. Ours was tiny and cheap but we had exactly what we wanted and have said several times since that even if we’d had millions we wouldn’t have changed a single thing. Our biggest expenses were food - it was amazing - and a photographer which was worth every penny. My family was scattered across the world at the time and the photos of us all together that day are precious beyond words. My dress was £40 and I made our cake to balance it out

I WAS happy with what we spent on ours but now thanks to bloody Covid and the insurance company finding a get out clause we’re going to have to spend an extra £3000 to have what we should have had this year. That’s very depressing.