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Moving to north Devon

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Charlie20112002 · 26/05/2020 08:18

Myself and husband would like to move to north devon we have 2 sons so secondary school info would be appreciated I would like to know if anybody has done the move and the reality I dont want to be an outsider we want to be part of a community many thanks

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user278654 · 26/05/2020 08:54

OP my advice would to be very cautious especially if you are moving to some of the small villages. People tend to be split into a number of groups. 1 Those who have holiday homes, how dare they. 2 The people who have families that have lived there a long time and deem that the newcomers are taking their off spring out of affordability of buying a property. 3 People who move to relocate/retire these people seem to get on. 4 The wealthy that have their own little group that are not very friendly.

We speak from experience having lived in the North Devon area for 15 years and now relocated to another part of the country.

The areas that could be considered are near to Chulmleigh good school Chulmleigh Academy. Barnstaple is lovely town with good schools and is close to other coastal towns and villages. Chittlehampton is a very nice village with a good pub and friendly locals and if money is no object Instow or Woolacombe but they tend to be busy in the summer months. You could also look at Appledore and there are good schools at nearby at Bideford.

Others may say that these sorts of people are everywhere but having experienced village life around the country over a long number of years I would suggest to take 2 weeks and rent and have a good look around. Whilst it is quite a big area you could cover a lot in 2 weeks.
Good luck.

Charlie20112002 · 26/05/2020 12:56

Thanks so much for the info

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Atalune · 26/05/2020 12:59

Woolacombe is really dead in the winter and quite depressed.

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GrimmsFairytales · 26/05/2020 13:08

Where abouts do you live now and where are you thinking of moving to?

If you live in quite a busy town or city, and are thinking of moving to a small village it will be a massive change in lifestyle, especially with teenagers.

As the previous poster said some communities can be very hostile to newcomers, and it can be difficult to feel like part of the community. So I definitely agree with the advice about spending time down there before making any decisions.

I would also like to add that unless you've lived somewhere which is reliant on a summer season before, it can be very odd adapting to a place which has such a variation in what's open in the different months.

peperethecat · 26/05/2020 13:36

North Devon is beautiful but it's not the most straightforward place to live.

I lived there for a while and I didn't actually find people unwelcoming at all. Quite the reverse, in fact. Within weeks I recognised almost everybody I passed on the street. I've been gone over ten years now but I still miss it and I still keep in contact with quite a lot of the people I met when I lived there.

Once children get to 18 they tend to split into two groups - those who leave and those who stay. Generally speaking those who want decent jobs leave and go to Bristol or London, and those who want to be by the coast and go surfing whenever they want stay, but their opportunities are quite limited. There are also quite a lot of adults who used to have good job in other places but were seduced by Devon and now work in pubs and surf shops.

If you want your kids to be high achievers at school and in their careers then you will need to be mindful of the fact that there are a lot of people in North Devon who aren't very ambitious. I don't mean that in an unkind way, but I mean there are a lot of people who either grew up there and never left because they don't see why anyone would ever want to live anywhere else, and people who moved there specifically to escape the rat race. You will be mixing with those people and your children will be mixing with their children. So if you want your kids to get top marks at school and go off to top universities and have glittering careers, bear in mind that it might be more of a struggle to motivate them in the laid back environment of North Devon than it would be if they were being hot housed in a competitive private or grammar school somewhere in the South East.

Socially it can be quite limiting. It is a small community and so you will be friends with people because they are there, rather than because you have things in common. In my experience that meant I made friends with a lot of people I probably never would have got to know in a big city, and that in itself can be surprising and enriching. But you may also feel it's difficult to meet people on your wavelength, either because you just don't meet enough people to find the ones you have a lot in common with, or because you have the feeling that everyone else has known each other forever and you're an outsider. (This is partly true, but not wholly.)

There are some people who seem to have got the balance just right. People who for example went off to university and then came back to Devon where work as a doctor or physiotheraprist at the local hospital or teach in one of the local schools and enjoy a beach lifestyle in their spare time. I also know a lot of people who grew up there and have great jobs in places like Bristol and go back to Devon every other weekend or so to see their parents and friends.

I also know people raising their young children down there who are constantly posting pictures on Facebook of sunsets and BBQs on the beach and walks in the glorious countryside and yes, I do feel jealous. If you can get the balance right with jobs and studies and a decent social life then it is a fantastic place to live. But it's not for everyone, and it really depends on what sort of person you are.

Charlie20112002 · 26/05/2020 13:38

We live in the westmidlands we are considering it when my youngest is ready for senior school which will be in 2 years ,my husband spent alot of his childhood in Woolacombe and we've since visited a few times I know it's going to be completely different to a holiday but we'd like to give our boys a better quality of life ,I just think we all have to do the mundane things in life work school etc but there are nicer places to do it in ,were not looking to buy just long term rent but I'm also wondering about jobs my husband is a bathroom/kitchen fitter I work at my local hospital I just wanted some advice as next year were gonna be travelling there to do our homework so it's good to get the head up thanks everyone for all the advice

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Atalune · 27/05/2020 17:39

I wonder if your teens would agree on what constitutes a better quality? I grew up in a small seaside town and I hated it.

Food for thought.

Charlie20112002 · 28/05/2020 05:04

Can I ask why you hated it ?

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Atalune · 28/05/2020 16:36

It was remote- a a good hour to a decent city where I could see bands, go shopping, cinema that sort of thing. I felt really cut off from what life was really like and I couldn’t wait to leave. I spent all my ££ on trains to the city every weekend and dashing for the last train home.

It felt like a small town with small minds (to my arrogant teen brain) and I hated that. The same things happening with the same people. It wasn’t very affluent either so there was bother with fights and drugs. That is something that I really really hated. There was ALOT of drugs and problems with pretty crime. Felt quite dangerous.

If you are going to a seaside town that’s a tourist spot then I think it would be a bit different as there will be things to do in season.

As a teen unless I was particularly into surfing/water sports I don’t think I would be happy about the move. But I don’t know what your teens are like?

Kez200 · 28/05/2020 18:26

I was dragged up in North Devon. Depends where you want to move to, what job you will have and your childrens needs.

I wouldnt go back but say I had to, I would look at Barnstaple or surrounds, and not any of the coastal towns or villages.

Im in Cornwall now, and much prefer it here, although not perfect and remote from the real world (takes 3 hours to get to Bristol). Im lucky in that our work is good but children had to move away for decent careers. Having said that, with lockdown, maybe more will work from home and want to come to live here for that reason.

If I could live anywhere I would move nearer to Bristol. Far more central. Better work choices. Lots of recreational areas too. Can get to the sea too (its in my genes so I need to be relatively close by salty air)

Wotrewelookinat · 28/05/2020 19:47

I lived in Bideford about 10 years ago. Things may have changed greatly since then, but at the time a lot of the teens were bored and there were similar drug problems to anywhere else. And as a PP said there could be little ambition... Beautiful area, loved being near the coast, but I felt too remote from the rest of the country and my family to stay.

Charlie20112002 · 28/05/2020 20:13

Thanks to everyone for all your comments really appreciate it x

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Justhonesr · 21/01/2024 13:43

I agree If you are NOT a Devonian you will NOT be accepted. Its a very unfriendly place to live. Plus most of the inhabitants are uneducated and very boring

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