Wedding guests who do you invite?

[Purplesndteal]

Thanks to the infinite wisdom of MN I've come to my senses and now know that 30 people is the absolute max I can host at my courtyard wedding.

But who do we invite? We have no friends in common and he has a couple of workmates he's close with but fears the rest will get offended if he doesn't invite them. It's the same for me and my religious congregation crowd. We really can't figure it out

Well we uninvited my mil so that made a space!

Just an idea op!!

Yes I like the idea of evening drinks at the hotel. If my family does show up I can even have a chat with the hotel to see if they can have some sort of discount. I doubt the congregation people will show up but I might as well invite them, I have nothing to lose! Only problem I can see is both our mothers. Mine will be staying with us, so she'd have to stay at home on baby sitting duties and his mum will be staying with his sister. If his sister comes to the evening drinks then his mum would get annoyed that she has to stay up and possibly left with my mum at home. They haven't met, and that will be the first time they meet so potentially very awkward!