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At my wits end with son, 8.

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Remmy123 · 25/05/2020 21:00

I am sat here feeling so sad regarding my 8 year old (9 soon).

School feedback, behaviour wise .. very good.

At home he is becoming so difficult and I have to nip it in the bud.

Examples below:

Barely utters morning or makes any conversation with his siblings and us. Finds it hard talking to adults. Can't engage.

Incredibly fussy eater, often yells around the table, tells me 'dinner is rank' it all ends in tears.

Homework ends in tears. Handwriting is getting worse, general lack of care.

Doesn't show any empathy or care for anything )other than his baby sibling) I genuinely think me or any member of family dies he wouldn't care.

Couldn't really give much of a shit about much, no longer interested in football.

Moans all of the time, on a bike ride he moans he is bored, his socks itch so cant play football, doesn't want to do anything at all it's all boring. Gets wound up v quickly.

Tells me to shut up, screams, slams doors, smashed things in room.

All he wants to do is play fortnite on the Xbox and chat online with his friends, and I am wondering if this is the issue. Obviously since not being at school and no outside activities this has been firm of communication with his mates. Currently he could be on there for 4 hours a day, when he comes off he is bored and will then start watching it on his iPad (which I take off him)

My older child plays the same length of time and is a jjoy and cooperates. 8 year old is just vile.

Any advice welcome please - tonight has been awful, I've said he can stay up and watch a film we try and choose one but they are all boring, so I tell him it's bedtime then. He is in there shouting at me he wants to go downstairs!!!

At end of tether - thanks

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VanillaSpiceCandle · 25/05/2020 21:58

He sounds really angry and upset. It’s sad to read and I’m sorry. I think it’s the gaming - it affects different children in different ways but generally I don’t think it has much of a positive effect. I think by reducing the time would have little impact and make his short term behaviour worse. I think the best thing would to be cut it out completely. And maybe look into a different way to contact his friends online.

Remmy123 · 25/05/2020 22:07

Thank you - I agree, I thought earlier maybe I'll reduce it to one hour a day.. as you say I think it wouid make it worse!!

I have been white soft due to the situation we are in but I think I have to remove the Xbox out of the house so I can't give in!

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