Do you trust your instincts?

[LittleLeaps]

There is a person who is a big feature in my childrens lives who I do not trust, there is no very obvious reason for this feeling, but every time this person is around my children every nerve in my body seems to scream at me to pay attention and stay alert. There isn't any way of keeping them away from this person and yet something just feels off. They are never left alone with this person and never will be.

I can't shake the feeling that there is something not right, the way that they interact and the way that they speak to my children just feels weird and I feel uncomfortable, the older my children get the stronger this feeling is becoming. I'm just wondering if anyone else has had this feeling, and what do you do if you have?

I always trust my instinct.
It doesn’t mean my instinct always kicks in but it’s been correct when I noticed it in the past.
I haven’t been in your exact situation before but if I was in your shoes I would do the same as you, never leave the children alone with this person and make sure the If you can’t watch them, the person who would be he safety factor is switched on to general safety.

Yes 100% I also like you have a family member that gives me that feeling. Rather piss that person off then have something happen to my kids. Like you they are never left alone etc.

Yes OP, trust that feeling.
It's from a freebie that comes with childbirth, named maternal instinct.

If it screams at you, you better listen even though there isn't always a rational explanation. Although that one might come later.

Yes, always. Not everyone can see this sort of thing, which has often surprised me.

Yes 100% always trust your instincts.

I had this feeling about someone when the DC were little especially with my DD. I even went to the extreme of telling my sister (in case I died) to never leave them alone with this person. She thought I was mad but promised me anyway.

When it comes to people as important as your own children, I would always say trust your instincts - unless for whatever reason what you were doing was hurting them, which in this case is highly doubtful. You only have limited chances to protect children from certain things, so don't feel silly about how you feel.

How easy is it to ensure that they never are alone with this person? As in, if it's their dad I can imagine this being a bumpy road for you but if it's a niece or nephew or family friend you could easily prevent it.

Another one here to say yes.

Always!

It's fairly easy to make sure they are never alone with this person, he has some disabilities which mean that as much as my partner thinks I am over reacting a bit this person would never be left in charge of them. My partner never goes to see this person on his own with our children, I am always with them when he does go.

I feel like this around my MiL. And had no reason until her true colours came out. Even my dd (2) doesn't interact with her, cries when she sees her etc. It's very strong. But I can't tell anyone because it's "kids grandmother" I fight this feeling every single week

That's excellent then. And I know this is easy for an internet stranger to say, but don't let anybody in real life undermine your feelings about this. You could be completely wrong but there is no harm in taking precautions with your children x

What’s that book called? ‘The gift of fear’ I think. It’s all about that

Yes always! DH has a relative that I feel like that towards. I’ve never left my DS alone in a room with him and me or DH will always be with DS when he is around. Even DS doesn’t like him and won’t let him hug him and runs away hiding when he comes round. Thankfully we don’t see him very often

Since my DC were born, my instincts have never let me down. They are there for a reason, always listen to them.

Yes, 100%.