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Springisintheair2 · 22/05/2020 17:40

DD's dad hasn't paid maintenance in what feels like forever, going on 7 months now. The money was always used towards my childcare costs, I'm a student so get the childcare grant but anything over the amount they give you has to come out of your own pocket so it was working out that we paid half each which felt fair even though I pay for everything else for her. As a result, all the money I'd saved up for a car to actually be able to get her to school when she starts in September is gone. CMS won't chase it up due to the lockdown. He's refusing to pay. He's furloughed on full pay as is his partner, and they've got a car each and have just bought an expensive kitchen gadget and those Ring doorbells, have also learned he is paying the mother of his other child, who has a high earning partner. I'm so bloody fed up and frustrated. Have asked him to at least pay towards her school uniform and he said no, but also flew off the handle at me when I didn't get him a bday gift from DD. I've never got one from him from her, nor do I expect one. I've no idea what to do anymore it's making the relationship so fraught I want to cancel the whole claim and to be entirely honest, feeling a bit sorry for myself. After a handhold really, there doesn't seem to be anything I can do. I'm usually so good at standing up for myself Sad

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Gettingthereslowly2020 · 22/05/2020 23:23

It's awful isn't it? My daughter's "father" puts £20 in my bank account once every few months or so. I can't go to the CMS as he's self employed (doing odd jobs cash in hand from what I can gather). He owns a car but has no assets or anything so my daughter wouldn't get anything anyway.

I hate how they can get away with not paying basic child maintenance for their own children and how acceptable it is in society.

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