Should I just accept this?

[Curiousaboutcuriousgeorge]

DP is a chef and is currently furloughed for the foreseeable future. So he has taken over all the cooking at home. My issue is he generally cleans as he goes but by the time he’s done the kitchen resembles a bomb site I’m expected to clean. The majority of it I see as unnecessary mess and it’s driving me insane!

Example dinner last night was spaghetti bolognaise. I can manage with 2 pots and a couple of utensils. DP managed to use 3 pots, a frying pan, 2 plates, a bowl, all the utensils and at least half the cutlery drawer and this was before he’d even plated up. Please don’t ask me what he needs them all for I have no idea.

In other ways he’s great he’s cooking up extra portions to drop off for our vulnerable/shielding family members. He’s more than pulled his weight around the house and with the DC. He’s even got around to all most of them little jobs that we have needed doing for a while aswell.

Am I just nitpicking or should he be accepting that he’s at home not work and I’m not his potwash?

If he's generally doing all the cooking and being great in most other ways I'd be inclined to just let it go and see cleaning it up as my forfeit for not having to cook! My DH does most cooking so I clear up most of the time.

I think he cooks like a chef, cos he is one. If you cut back the washing up you might cut back the taste too. Can he make extra portions for you too so you can freeze things and then only have to wash up less often?

Why don't you just swap a job with him if it bugs you so much? So whatever he goes off to do while you clean the kitchen, you do that and he can clean up for himself.

I don't think you should invariably be expected to clean up, so long as you're both pulling your weight. Always being landed with the chore you hate is not fair.