After abortion

[seasonseating]

Hey, I just kind of wanted to start a thread to see what other people's thoughts are post abortion. I had an abortion in January and I still think about it all the time. Is that normal? Should it cross my mind as much as it does?

A lot would depend on the reasons why you had the abortion. I don't think there is any "normal" reaction to having one.

When I had an abortion I felt relief, and got on with life without any backwards glances at all. That was "normal" for me and my circumstances at the time. For you, thinking about it every day is normal too. After only 5 months I'd say that just about any reaction is normal. If you were still thinking about it daily after a year, I'd suggest seeing a counselor.

Agree with Stella - it just depends on your individual circumstances. I had one ten years ago and although I was only relieved at the time, I'd be lying if I claimed I never mentally acknowledge how old our child would be now, or wonder what he/she might look like etc.

But I don't feel regret or sadness. It was the right thing at the time. Unfortunately not everybody feels the same.

I had one and while it was an emotional decision and journey for me I did feel relief afterwards as the father was a psychopath and really couldn’t have it, I was too young and it would have been a terrible situation. However, it did still affect me and I felt sad, I do wonder if it was a boy or girl and to think I could have a three year old right now, but then I wouldn’t have the beautiful baby I have today with the love of my life 💗 my life would be completely different, but I do still think about it now again, 5 months is still pretty raw! You’re strong and amazing for making that decision, it’s not an easy one xx

Hi all,
I’m not sure if this starts a new thread. Hope so!
I’m and a termination 2 weeks ago. I really believe it was the right choice. It was a planned pregnancy but it felt wrong for some reason and we decided to terminate. I don’t agree with what I did but it was the right decision.
I’m now wondering what to do. Is this a sign I didn’t actually want a baby? Should I now live a child free life? It’s all such a a rollercoaster.

@ED81 how are you feeling now? Are you happy that you had done it? It's sounds like it was the right choice for you.

@seasonseating. Thanks for asking.

To be honest I’ve really struggled. Im quite flat and anxious. I’ve cried my eyes out lots. I hate what I’ve done.

The problem is I don’t know what any of that means?