How do you feel when your usual loving partner snaps at you over something minor?

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How do you feel when your usual loving partner snaps at you over something minor?
Like if you made a bit of a mess with water when washing up when it was your turn to do it?
What if he raises his voice to complain about it and then calms down within minutes. Apologises, says he was in a bad mood etc.

Do you feel icy and not wanna be near him (especially not physically)? If so, how do you get over it?

I do initially but then I remember we are all human and that’s not him 98 percent of the time and that because it’s so minor it’s probably something else that’s stressed him so I ask if he’s okay and chat to him.

crap for a while but then remember that sometimes I do something similar.

Whilst on the whole 'You always hurt the one you love' is crap. The thing is sometimes we all feel crap and snapping at someone we love sometimes happens because we feel safe to snap at them, because we know they love us and we love them and we make allowances.

I've done it to my kids - and apologised and they have to me.

We are human

Thanks everyone so far