Why can't I stop thinking about my ex?

[Lonelylockdown22]

I think about my ex and first love all the time. I don't think we ever should have broken up really. I've never loved someone as much. It's ridiculous, we broke up about 7 years ago, he's married with a child now. Still, I look at his Facebook and his wife's Facebook all the time and get so sad when I see pictures of them together. She looked so beautiful on their wedding day. Probably doesn't help that I'm fat, ugly, single and childless. Will I ever get over him?

Are you sure its him you miss and not the idea of a relationship. I'm sure your not ugly, but it sounds like you need to be kinder to yourself and learn to love yourself. Take some time out to find you and surround yourself with friends and people that live you.

You need to block them and sort yourself out. You sound sad and lonely. When you lose the weight and look hotter and get back into dating you wont br thinking of them.

I am sad and lonely

You know that’s a bit obsessive and creepy, and is probably hurting you more than them. You have every right to wish for a partner and a family of your own, but hankering after a lost love is not going to help.

Someone on here once described the social media checking as "shopping for pain", and that is what youre doing.

You dont really know what their relationship is like, only what they choose to share.

Its time to block them, both, and concentrate on you. Do you do online dating?
What about losing weight? Set some goals for yourself to focus on!'

I think that you’re going through an unhappy stage in your life and you’re projecting it all at him. It might be that you don’t actually miss him, but that you’re missing the last time you felt happy, which was when he was around, so you’re placing him in charge of your happiness. And, as he has moved on and found what’s right for him, that is never going to end well for you.