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Strangest 'false memory' someone has of you?

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Eastie77 · 19/05/2020 17:54

I created a similar thread to this years ago and found it fascinating so thought I'd restart a new one:)

The strangest one for me is still the one I wrote about last time: I bumped into a former colleague who I worked with many years ago. When I told him I had two children he said ah yes, I remember when you were pregnant in the office. Except I fell pregnant years after I left the place where we worked together. However he distinctly remembered my pregnancy, the baby gifts colleagues got for me and the 'baby shower' lunch I had. He rememberd signing a congratulations card for me.

He remained absolutely convinced even when I pointed out my eldest's childs age didn't match up with the time I worked there and seemed to think I simply forgot when I left Confused There was no-one else in our office who looked remotely like me and no other pregancies he could have confused me with as it was a male dominated office.

Still puzzles me to this day!

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Chochito · 19/05/2020 21:05

I'm a teacher. Two of my students are convinced I turned up at their house once on a bicycle to deliver them a Glovo (don't know if you have it in UK, it's like Deliveroo).

TigerDroveAgain · 19/05/2020 21:08

I’m a solicitor and was doing a presentation to a prospective client. One of the panel was effusive about me and then at the end said that she hoped to work with me again as she remembered me from when I worked at firm X. I said that actually I’d never worked there and she said “oh yes you did”! No going back from that so I smiled politely. We got the work! She never mentioned it again thank goodness.

CarrieMoonbeams · 19/05/2020 21:14

My mum (often, too often) tells the story of how she and our neighbours had to save my wedding dress when I was going to get married. Apparently my dress got completely tangled up in the rose bushes when I was walking from our house down the path to get into the car. My mum and the neighbours then had to spend ages painstakingly releasing my dress from the thorns. She always then ends the story with a triumphant "so I have never had a rose bush in any of my gardens from that day onwards. Never!"

Didn't happen at all. By the time I was getting into the car with my dad, everyone else - including our neighbours as it was such a friendly street - and also including my mum, brother and the bridesmaids etc, were already at the church waiting for me! Oh and we didn't have rose bushes in the front garden either, it was geraniums on each side of the path. Bizarre.

thenightsky · 19/05/2020 21:17

My oldest friend is convinced I was at his passing out ceremony for the Marines. I definitely wasn't, but he's so convincing I start to doubt myself, even though I know I was on my honeymoon at the time.

Another dear friend is always re-telling a tale of when me and her were trying on shoes in TK-Maxx and we bumped into a 'that horrible manager' from work and 'you totally ignored him ahaha'. Thing is, we bumped into a nice manager from work and I greeted him politely. I just smile and nod when she starts telling it yet again.

Zaphodsotherhead · 19/05/2020 21:19

CarrieMoonbeams - it there any chance that the rosebush/dress interface actually happened to your mum, but she's translated it into being you? Did your grandparents have rose bushes in their front garden when your mum got married?

HelloDulling · 19/05/2020 21:22

My MIL does this. She is convinced that I was still at school when I got together with my DH. I wasn’t, I was 19 and had a different boyfriend at school. It’s been 25 years, and she still gives a knowing ‘I know best’ look when she brings it up and I deny it, which is surprisingly often. It drives me demented.

Wewearpinkonwednesdays · 19/05/2020 21:24

Quite a few people, after completing my hair colour and me telling them I just use a box dye, tell me they thought I had always had ginger hair. My hair is naturally brown, I've had it blonde, red, nearly black for a while and only started dying it this shade about 4 years ago. No idea why they think I've always been ginger Confused

WhySeaEmm · 19/05/2020 21:25

Mine is terrible. My 9 year old talks about the time I slapped him! He adamantly has maintained it is true for two years now. He's never lied and 100% believes what he's saying. He's a brilliant kid, you can tell he is is certain its the truth and gets really cross when I remind him it didn't happen.

I've never so much as shouted at him!

Boomclaps · 19/05/2020 21:27

A girl i went to school with is convinced that I had black hair

Eastie77 · 19/05/2020 21:30

Chocito are your students old enough to have taken drugs? That's a very random memory!

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CarrieMoonbeams · 19/05/2020 21:40

@Zaphodsotherhead No, not at all. She got married in the 1950s and didn't have a dress that made her look like one of those toilet roll dollies like mine did (1980s wedding). Her parents lived in a city centre flat too, no front garden.

I've absolutely no idea how that story started. I'm wondering now if it happened to the daughter of the work colleague of hers or something, and she thought it was such a thrilling anecdote that she decided to cast herself in the starring role?! Bless her, it's harmless I know, but after hearing it being re-told at every opportunity for over 30 years (and you'd be surprised at how often it can be shoehorned into a conversation) I'm starting to believe it myself!

jetsetter87 · 19/05/2020 21:41

My cousin is/was convinced I slept with her then boyfriend and that I admitted it to her!!
I never. Never spoke 2 words to the guy. If he told her that happened in some weird spiteful way then thats strange enough but for her to think she confronted me and I confessed...makes it harder when I now say "bit I didnt!!" And shes says "its ok...I know you did...you confessed...I dont care anymore..."

ThighThighofthigh · 19/05/2020 21:42

My Mum is convinced I have a false memory about us having had 2 different cats, a few years apart. We really did! But I agree with her now.

My adult son asked me about his Dad's kidney transplant. Never happened.

Samtsirch · 19/05/2020 21:44

A woman I worked with very closely for 12 months had very vivid memories of being at school with me and my twin sister, over 40 years ago.
I don’t have a twin sister !
We discovered, through conversations about teachers, events etc that we did attend First school together, and I vaguely remember her and some of the things she recollects.
All of her memories include my twin sister.
We have even shared old school photos, with the 2 of us in the picture, and her explanation for my sister not being there is that she must have been ill that day, or just not in the photo.
I did think she was winding me up at first, but she was adamant that she remembered my sister, who apparently was often unwell and spent a lot of time in hospital.
I only worked with her for a year and have not seen her since, and I can only imagine she mistook me for someone else, although I don’t remember any twins when I was in First school, and the only twins in my family were 3 generations ago.

Literaryseed · 19/05/2020 21:55

My sister is convinced that I was a huge fan of the Kardashians show when I lived at home. Absolutely sure. But I've literally never watched a single episode.

MrsSchadenfreude · 19/05/2020 21:56

I have a friend who is adamant that I was at his wedding. I wasn’t, I was living abroad at the time and couldn’t get home. He said that I came with Mark, someone I had dated on and off in my teens. Mark was definitely there, but I wasn’t. A couple of months ago he emailed me a photo from his wedding (they were moving house and having a clear out), saying “See, I told you that you were there - you’re in the second row next to Mark.” The weird thing is, this person in the photo does look like me - could be me - but it isn’t.

MushroomTree · 19/05/2020 22:01

A long standing friend's ex is utterly convinced that I verbally assaulted her and slapped her round the face when we were teenagers.

I've never met her. We live in different cities. My friend and I weren't even in touch when they were together but she swears blind I've assaulted her and cheerfully tells everyone I'm a total psycho.

They were together 10 years ago and the last I heard she stands by her "memory".

Watto1 · 19/05/2020 22:05

My best friend from school made sure that her wedding was completely nut free because of my allergy. I’m not allergic to nuts.

CarrieMoonbeams · 19/05/2020 22:05

@MrsSchadenfreude, wow, that's a strange one. No wonder he's even less likely to let go of the memory of 'you' being there.

These are brilliant, what a fascinating thread.

Giganticshark · 19/05/2020 22:07

My dad was absolutely convinced that we'd been to the Louvre. That we'd stood in from of the mona Lisa and I had stated its much smaller than I thought it'd be.... We never went.

My sister is convinced I vomited in the back of a taxi into my handbag. It definitely never happened. She won't believe me. Its shit when people make up stuff

Autumnchill · 19/05/2020 22:10

Mines the other way. My husband and I are absolutely certain we saw my Dad eat cheese. He's adamant he doesn't like cheese and never ate it at our house but we both have a clear memory of standing in the kitchen with Lincolnshire Poacher cutting off thin slices and drinking a bottle of something sparkling one Christmas with him!

RyanBergarasTeeth · 19/05/2020 22:13

Someone i went to school with is convinced i am dead. Even when my friends bump into them and they bring me up about what a shame it is i died so young, my friends point out im still alive but this person is having none of it. Them remember plainly being told at school about how i got pregnant and was found dead in mysterious circumstances. My friends even shown them my facebook. Ut still no i am deffo dead. Mad.

TheDogsMother · 19/05/2020 22:15

Me and DP (a graphic designer) bumped into someone on one of our very early dates. This person proceeded to ask about DP's career as a jockey and how the stables were doing. After this guy moved on I asked DP what that was all about and he said it happened every single time when he met this guy so he'd just given up correcting him.

Institutkarite · 19/05/2020 22:15

My mother is convinced that my son was born on the 28th. She phoned me to remind me that it was his birthday. Long story of a controlling parent there.
During the conversation I kept saying NoMum, it's the 27th. I started to get a bit annoyed, she kept saying NO 28th. Then she said Institutkarite I was there. I asked where the fuck did she think I was?
We're not in contact now. No surprise there

MadisonAvenue · 19/05/2020 22:36

My best friend throughout childhood (and still a good friend now) was injured by another child, the class bully, at junior school. It was a very specific and unusual injury.
I took him to the teacher, sat with him while she tended to him and later walked with him to meet his mother after school (this was the 1970s when you were patched up with a plaster, given a lollipop and told to carry on).

A couple of years ago we were talking about school and his wife said that he’s often talked about how I inflicted the above mentioned injury on him at junior school. He’s utterly convinced it was me despite my denials and me telling him who actually did it.

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