No friends..

[imalittlethrowaway]

Lockdown has really brought home the fact that I have no “proper” friends and it’s a bit crap tbh. I have my husband but sometimes a girly chat is what’s needed! Has anyone else found themselves in this position?

I’m considering a group chat for us “loners”!

Thats very hard. I think the easiest way to meet people if you have kids is through other mums. There might be a clique but there are always others on the edges who too would probably love to make some friends. There will be trials and errors and while I have a good group of friends I have made a good few through the other school mums and my kids are not even friends with theirs

Feeling you right now. I had a baby right at the start of lockdown. Since then I've realised I have no friends. I've started to reach out to people I knew and lost contact with who I know have babies, some even had babies similar time to me and we have a new common ground which I'm thankful for.

But yeah, it's so crap. I have my partner too but miss my girly chats, it's like my close friends just have 'left me too it' and I no longer hear from them ever

I have no friends either. I've had a couple of WhatsApp chats with Mums from my baby group through lockdown but I have no one to call just for a chat 😢

I agree mum friends probably would have been my next chance to make friends, but I’m not a mum and I don’t want children (yes I know this is mumsnet )

It’s feeling worse at the moment because I can’t go out and try the usual way to make friends, clubs and stuff. And who knows when all that will start back up. Online might be the only way for now!

There was a thread recently similar to this, they set up a group on Facebook. I tried to join but haven't been accepted. Rejected even by people looking for friends 😆

In the same boat OP.

Ah @TippledPink the irony!

There are a few of us in the same boat, what does anything think about some sort of group chat? I find it easier to follow when it’s a chat rather than Facebook posts

Me too 😬

@imalittlethrowaway I love the idea of the chat thing. I think it's good. Even just general daily stuff. Although because I have an 8w old my stuff is all pretty based around babies - so I'm probs a boring friend to have right now especially with u not having kids and not wanting them 😂😂😂

Agree with you, find myself talking to the dogs. I only have a few friends and they are also colleagues... if I left my job I imagine we wouldn't speak. I am in a WhatsApp group with 2 of them so we can vent about lockdown and our useless partners 😂 I'm feeling lucky that I have my babies x

Yep, me too.
I have children but they are older and the friends I made then have drifted away over the years.

@nicannie I’m happy to hear all about your baby (I’ve working in childcare for 12ish years so I’m not oblivious haha) as long as you don’t mind hearing about my cats

OP, these threads appear a minimum of once every few days. I say this not to suggest you shouldn't have posted, but to say that, by the evidence of Mn, a significant number of people feel as you do. In some cases, it's clearly because posters believe in various myths about friendship -eg that everyone else has a stable friendship group that does everything together, that everyone else has a best friend who is permanently available for heart to hearts, that everyone else has a group of female friends with whom they have a continual schedule of 'girly weekends' and shopping trips, that having a child is a wonderful opportunity to make 'mum friends'.

Sure, some people do, but I have a lot of friends from various points in my life, have no difficulty in making and keeping friends, and certainly don't feel in any way lonely, and I don't have a 'best friend', a friendship group who all know one another, or a group of female friends with whom I go to spas/shopping, and have never in my life had a 'mum friend'.

@imalittlethrowaway Exactly! I just checked and my request was definitely rejected, have just sent another one 😆.

Have too many dc is just as much of a problem op!!. Long since been friendless!!
BFF for a long time always asked how many dc I had in the car if I text I was passing.. I accepted she only wanted a grown ups only friendship and ghosted her to avoid awkward friendship break up

Was a shame as genuinely our dc got along very well!! If anything it was her dd who was the nightmare dc not mine!!
Dh isn't very chatty but my ddogs are always up for a chat!!

I have no friends too. I’m not from the UK but lived here for 16 years. I’ve never managed to make friends despite trying...

Can you set the group up?

Lots of lonely people around.

@imalittlethrowaway definitely happy to hear!!! We have 2 dogs and I also grew up with cats, love them 😂😂

@TippledPink, the irony of being rejected from a group set up for people looking to make friends. Same happened to me with a meet-up group for women over 50. Long intro about how making friends in later life is hard, and this was a place for women to connect and support each other blah blah, submitted request to join and got immediately rejected. I had a thread about it at the time. I set up my own group in the end and it's been great!

@JumpingAtJackdaws Well I chased it up today with the MN user who set it up and I am finally in! Best be worth it now 😁

I'm up for a group :)

I’m up for a group as well.

How does one set up a group in MN?

Sorry was finishing work! What platform would everyone prefer - Facebook, whatsapp?

I have no sm. Who would I have on there? Dc seems a bit sad!!
Have what's app!!