How old is too old to ttc?

[Curious200]

Coming over from a post that I created that had me thinking. How old do you think is too old to ttc?

Menopause is the obvious upper limit (unless premature, which is a different matter). The problem with being in your 40s (for most women) is egg quality. I had a mc at 39.5 yrs , and baby at nearly 41 and have since had 3 miscarriages and am now pregnant again at 44. Obviously age of father also has a bearing too. I have older children born in my 20s and 30s.

I had an easy pregnancy and birth, only complication was GD.
I haven’t found it tiring though really-I mean the first weeks are a bit brutal. But on the whole it’s all been a doddle. But everyone is different.
My DH is about to turn 47, so a second is unlikely for us. But if we do he’ll be 49/50 which is a push.

Here in my patch of London you’d get shocked looks if you were under 35 having your first child, you’d be considered really young 🤣. I was 42 with DC1 and felt right at home. One poor mum was 28 and she really struggled to fit in with the NCT group. I’m not saying that’s right or anything, but it’s the reality for this north London neighbourhood...

I’m 38 and although I’d quite like another baby I suddenly feel like I’m too old. If I didn’t have any yet then I’m sure I’d feel differently.

In general probably 42/43. The only people I know trying at that age who are having issues TTC so it’s got later than they had originally planned. I think that’s fairly common, people think oh I’ve got until
I’m 40 then it doesn’t quite work out that way.

Every woman will have a different opinion on this, it's entirely up to them depending on their circumstances and what they feel comfortable with. I certainly don't judge anyone trying to conceive at 40 plus. If my own circumstances had been different my answer would've been different.

As it is, I felt my own personal cut-off was 35, though I actually had my third and last child at 33. It does seem quite young looking back.

Yes my mum was 38 when she had me and I always thought she was an old mum when I was younger.. Hate to say it now I'm older but at the time I did.

In my family it’s 50 for women.

@Curious200 I conceived my first at 38 after one try. Studies on fertility in older women have often been shown to be flawed

To each their own, having gone through ivf at 25 I don't think about putting an age on it. Just do what's right for you.

My personal age to stop ttc (before we knew we needed fertility treatments) was going to be 34. Not that I think that's "too old" as such, just that would of meant 12 years of me ttc and the strain of that on my body, mind and relationship would be too much.

Hope I make sense, 3am babbling lol

40 and even that's classed as an older parent to children.

@Very
It’s the same in my little bit of rural Leics. 35+ is the norm for a first baby