Living with a gardener.

[Carolinesmum]

Hello my 'beloved' has been a gardener for over 30 years. Under lockdown he made me a vegetable trough easy to use on a stand. So looking forward to lovely veg but just put seedlings in but apparently he says I've done it wrong ☹ . Really upset me or am I being daft? Put me off doing any more. The only things I have left in the garden are my Rose's.

I'm not sure - I think it depends how he said it/what the context is.

Do you live together, or not? If the garden belongs to you/was yours before he moved in, can understand you feeling territorial. And you sound as if that might be it?

OTOH, if he knows his stuff it would counter-productive not to listen to him. I'm more of a gardener than my DP, and it drives me nuts seeing her do something that Will Not Work, then asking me what I think. Why not ask me before?!

It does depend whether it's a matter of opinion, too. I can put up with DP deciding to plant things a wee bit closer than I'd choose, or not watering for quite long enough. But if she were insisting on planting out the courgettes in February or putting nine tomato plants into the space for one, I'd say something. I wouldn't say it nastily, but it's a waste of time and money if you just know for certain that something isn't possibly going to work.