Tips on how to get ‘me’ back

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I’ve been thinking a lot in lockdown about how I’ve lost myself in every aspect of my life- I have 2 year old twins and started working part-time when they born, I was happy with this decision and still want to continue but I’m in a job that I’m so unhappy with and I’ve lost all confidence in myself as a professional. I am actively looking a new job but obviously with covid things are on hold a bit.
I have totally let myself go with my weight and realised yesterday I have become frumpy, I previously would have been a decent enough looking woman.
My marriage is suffering a lot (since having the boys but also since lockdown) and I’ve turned into a nasty person who just takes things out on my husband.
I find I have just lost the fun and joy in life and want to get it back. Has anyone been in this position and managed to turn it around?

Having young babies/toddlers is an awful life phase, anyway, for a lot of people, and I don't think it's at all unusual to feel you've lost yourself at this point and I imagine with two it's extra challenging. You're on the look out for a better job, so I think all you can do there assuming you can't leave now is to disengage from it psychologically. Do your job professionally, but don't give it more than the minimum investment it needs to be done competently you will be gone from it soon.

I think the key thing, though, is to prioritise yourself now. Not your children, not your husband. What makes you happy? What do you love doing? Factor in as much time as possible to do that. Would some therapy help? If you want to lose weight, what method most appeals? Are you someone who enjoys exercise?