Does anyone else feel "homesick" when staying at hotels/friends houses (not about people but the actual surroundings)?

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Does anyone else feel "homesick" when staying at hotels/friends houses (not about people but the actual surroundings)?

I know it's fairly typical to feel homesick about people e.g. to miss family or friends but I get a strong homesickness feeling and feel uneasy and on edge whenever I have to sleepover in any place that isn't my own home (e.g. friend's house, hotels, even family's home if it's been ages since I moved out). My place is tiny and awful but I always prefer it, even compared to a fancy hotel because of familiarity.

This feeling often puts me off going on holiday, etc.

Has anyone else felt like that or am I odd?

I don't avoid going on holiday abroad or for weekends away etc but I will actively avoid staying over at friend's houses and partner's families house.

I would always rather stay sober and drive home to the comfort of my own bed and home. The only time I'd need to sleep over is if I was drinking. I couldn't think of anything worse than being hungover in someone else's house and not having my own bed, sofa, blankets, shower/bath, snack cupboard.

Been there, done it, hate it. Nothing worse sitting around waiting to sober up and leave.

I can never sleep in another bed unless it in my house. Been to some beautiful hotels, yet I still wake up several times a night too hot!

Me, and I get anxious before going somewhere to stay. I prefer hotels because I leave my stuff everywhere and make it “mine”, whereas in other people’s houses you have to be tidy and it puts me on edge. Even though I’m a naturally tidy person. I actually don’t get homesick for people and don’t really miss people, even those I love very much. It’s like a weird compartmentalising thing I do. Probably should start a different thread on that to be honest!

Yes me! I always love the thought of it and I have fun at friends/ hotels etc right up until the moment I get in to bed and then I just get a bit of a sad/sick feeling and want to be back home!

I don't mind hotels/holidays but I absolutely hate staying at other peoples houses!

This is me. I've found that the older I get the more I miss home and however welcoming my friends/family are or however nice the hotel may be I just feel restless and need to be in my own home.

Happy to stay at hotels but also hate staying at other peoples houses

Yes. I'm fine during the day on holiday but at night I just want to be at home.

Yes. Much prefer my own space and my own bed. I'm really not keen on staying with friends or relatives. I don't mind a hotel so much because you have privacy. I suspect I'm just very unsociable.

Me too! Since being a child, if I'm away from home I get a weird homesick/anxious feeling.

I think for me homesickness has always been more about surroundings and material things.
I love to travel both in the UK and abroad and don’t tend to get homesick.
However, I don’t like staying overnight anywhere within striking distance of home. Like PP I would rather stay sober and drive home if I was within say 90 minutes of home.

I spend about half the year in hotels and I love them and sleep great. Especially the standard brands (like Holton or SPG) where the rooms are really similar in every hotel.

I really, really dislike staying over in someone's house be it a friend or an in law. I can't relax enough to sleep well. I also don't like anyone staying overnight in mine unless it's my mum! I used to live in a huge tourist city and we had a constant stream of guests. It was lovely seeing friends and family but I used to dread my space being invaded.

Always! I never stay at other people's houses - even my adult DS when we visit. We ALWAYS find a quite/small lovely B&B a few minutes away. But yes to feeling homesick or on edge - I plan all sorts of trips/holidays and they're usually great/good - but am always always twitchy/feeling a bit 'lost' and want the familiarity of home

I love staying in hotel and happy to do it for a few nights. However I'm one of these people who looks forward to going home after a holiday. I love my house, my things, my bed.

Yes! I've started to find hotels impersonal and depressing - the nicer they are the worse it is. I used to find them fun but not anymore. Only thing I like is having breakfast cooked for me.

Always felt unsettled staying in other people's houses too so glad it's not just me. I've found some people get slightly offended if you go to great lengths to get back home instead of staying at theirs, but it's nothing to do with not liking being there, more a need to wake up in your own bed.

I travel around for temp nanny work and stay in other people's houses all the time. I never feel comfortable, no matter how nice the family or surroundings. Home is where the heart is, ie, with my nice familiar tatty bedroom, well chewed furniture, scuffed up walls, sun damaged curtains and all!

There was a study that says people wake frequently and do not fall into a deep sleep in new surroundings. It's likely an evolutionary trait to monitor for danger and explains why you might feel uneasy in surroundings you aren't used to.

Yes. I'm a home bird and not a traveller.

Yes, I'm a home bird and like my own things around me. I particularly dislike staying in someone else's home - I find myself counting down the sleeps until I'm back in my own bed!

I travel a lot for work, so hotels come with the job, I like it. I find it stressful if we stay in a hotel as a family, it's too small a space and the room gets cluttered which isn't good for my "tidy gene". I live out of my case when I'm away, so nothing gets taken out apart from shirts hung up, so the room stays tidy. If it's just me and my wife in a hotel, again I really enjoy it.

I absolutely hate staying at other people's houses and avoid it completely if I can.

Yes I do all the time, even on my honeymoon. Lol. X

I never stay in someone else's home however welcoming and comfortable it might be. Hotels to me signify holiday so I'm usually OK with that but when I go to bed I always get a slightly sick feeling in the pit of my stomach and my heartbeat goes up - a friend said it sounds like an adrenaline imbalance, a fear or flight reaction! So to me it feels more like wanting the security of my own home rather than homesickness.

Every time OP. I avoid it like the plague. Hotels I can tolerate if they're a decent standard but when I go to London for work I insist on staying at exactly the same hotel every time and will pay the extra myself if their prices swing out of our price limit for expenses.

Haven't even stayed at parents' houses in years.

Bloody love hotels. Hate other people's houses. It's the "oooh should I go to the loo now, where's the lightswitch, what time should I go downstairs" thing. Makes me feel about 6.

I love travelling and being away and never feel like this on holiday, BUT I always get it when staying at friends' houses – that little twinge before going to sleep of wishing I was in my own bed. This usually coincides with a night out, so it's possibly also the knowledge that I'm going to wake up feeling a bit rough and have to make my way home.

Interestingly, I never get it when away with friends. Perhaps it's something about being in someone else's space for me, even though my friends are all lovely and make me feel very at home!

I've been known to spend lots on taxis at silly-o-clock because I'd rather be in my own bed than crashing at someone's.