Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Original poster

Would you do this? Let DD come home when you're not there?

111 replies

Haypyrexic · 12/05/2020 10:40

DD is 8. DS has been offered a time slot for a therapy which is in a different town. It counts as a school lesson so would be compulsory for a year if I agree to it.

The therapy ends at half past and if he is out exactly on time we would just (barring any unforeseen problems like train barriers being down, DS being late out or needing the loo) be able to get the :46 bus, arriving at :50 in our town. Then a 5 minute walk home.

DD finishes school at quarter to, has a two minute walk home.

If we miss the bus, next would be at :20 and I would not be able to contact DD.

OP posts:
Original poster
Haypyrexic · 13/05/2020 08:59

No, absolutely not like that Titiana.

DH can't help as he works too far away.

Bending it has to fit into a school lesson , but I could see about cutting 5 minutes short. It's individual and he's been going for a few years now. We've a tight connection to get there, once we've crossed the main road DS has to run on ahead to get there on time. Running back to get to the bus stop isn't really practical as I can't run as I usually do some shopping whilst he's in there.

OP posts:
TitianaTitsling · 13/05/2020 15:35

You should definitely see about getting the school to fund a taxi if it's run by them. Or does he get any dla/pip that could be used for it?

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 13/05/2020 15:41

Drop ds at the therapy. Go back and collect dd. Ds can wait. Then you return and collect him.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

8 year olds Families
TitianaTitsling · 13/05/2020 16:00

But the person who suggested it is the teacher who knows DD, our situation (as I've turned down all the other time suggestions) am honestly not being picky- but what were the other suggestions you turned down?

TitianaTitsling · 13/05/2020 16:02

Ah! Bernardette has it! Utterly sensible!

Original poster
Haypyrexic · 13/05/2020 16:40

He's not allowed to miss class when his TA is there and all of the other options would mean leaving during one of her lessons.
I don't think I can do that Bernadette as DS would be unattended for 40 minutes.

OP posts:
Mascotte · 13/05/2020 16:41

If she's happy and sensible I'd do it but I'd buy her a phone.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 13/05/2020 18:47

How old is DS?

purplecorkheart · 13/05/2020 18:54

Do you know any other parents at the school who do the school run in a car? Maybe they may be willing to pick up your dd and bring her home and wait for the time it takes you to get home.

SleepingStandingUp · 13/05/2020 19:07

Op how old is DS? Why can't he miss a lesson with his ta if its for therapy? Can she move her sessions with him?.

I'd ask another parent to have her and if you're back in time great. Perhaps return the favour by offering to do their pick up a different day

SleepingStandingUp · 13/05/2020 19:08

Is this from Sept op?

Original poster
Haypyrexic · 13/05/2020 19:19

Yes will be for the new school year. This year he has it after school, I pick both up and we go straight to the bus stop.

He has TA 6 hours and she won't move her lessons because she wants to be there for specific subjects.
DS is 10

OP posts:
Francesthemute · 13/05/2020 19:23

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Coffeeandbeans · 13/05/2020 19:24

Will be dark from October. No way would I let an 8 year old walk home in the dark or enter the house in the dark. You just have a friend who can help.

TitianaTitsling · 13/05/2020 19:38

How long is ds therapy, could you do as pp suggested, drop him, travel back for DD, then you and dad meet ds for journey home? Would it not be better ds waiting at the venue where therapy is rather than DD doing a walk home and waiting in dark? What would happen if she lost the house keys and couldn't get in? Especially since you have said she loses things?

Original poster
Haypyrexic · 13/05/2020 19:57

Take your 8 year old with you. Honestly she won’t be missing out on anything you couldn’t do with her while he is in the session.
Nonsense, plus the whole breaking the law and being fined...

No, I can't leave him unsupervised for 40 minutes. Dark is not an issue as it's over lunchtime (school does not provide lunch, kids go home for lunch). But even if I could leave him alone for 40 minutes, I'd not have time to get her, get him, get home and feed them and get them back to school for afternoon lessons. No one actually picks their kids up from school, so asking a parent to wait is no-go and they all need to get their kids fed and back. If it wasn't for Corona, I could ask my MIL to come and get lunch on, sort DD and I'd chance it if she couldn't be there for any reason.

OP posts:
BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 13/05/2020 20:06

All the kids go home for lunch? That's madness.

TitianaTitsling · 13/05/2020 20:07

So if it's over lunch, take her with you and she has her lunch while sitting with you?!

Original poster
Haypyrexic · 13/05/2020 20:09

She would still have to miss two lessons if I took her with me, and that not allowed.

OP posts:
Francesthemute · 13/05/2020 21:28

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

drspouse · 13/05/2020 21:29

If we're still at the stage where your MIL can't come round and do lunch in Sept, nobody will be doing therapy in other schools.
Can't your DD go home with another family?

Stompythedinosaur · 13/05/2020 21:43

Tell the school that the therapy will need to happen, even if over a slot the TA is in. That is clearly a better option than having young dc unsupervised.

Original poster
Haypyrexic · 14/05/2020 05:25

If we're still at the stage where your MIL can't come round and do lunch in Sept, nobody will be doing therapy in other schools.
I'm in this situation now, so it's not hard to assume it will be the case when they go back. School and therapies/medical appointments opened again this week, MIL is shielding. The difference is, as it's after school, I don't need her help. The teacher/therapist no longer wants to offer sessions outside of school hours.

OP posts:
CostaCosta · 14/05/2020 06:21

Could you ask the teacher or school to help? I'm a teacher and did something similar, came in a bit earlier to help a parent with ds.

ChateauMargaux · 14/05/2020 06:40

Ask a school friend to walk her home.

Swipe left for the next trending thread