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Have you ever met a stranger that you had a very strong connection with?

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raswer · 12/05/2020 04:56

I was in London for work for 2 nights earlier this year. On my first day I had quite a bit of time free so decided to go to one of the central parks for a walk and chill. I sat on a bench and a man sat next to me. I didn't even look at him as I was just enjoying the peace! He started a conversation and we instantly hit it off. I am super shy and normally wouldn't even know what to say! But somehow we sat there chatting for an hour. It was getting a bit chilly so we ended up going to a local coffee shop ( I would never do this) and were engrossed in conversation literally for hours. Before we knew it, it was late evening. I went back to my hotel and he went home. It was very unlike me and he said the same about himself too. The next day we agreed to meet again for a bite to eat after work and we ended up chatting about everything and anything all evening. I found him so easy to talk and felt really comfortable with him. We laughed a lot and got on so well. He totally "got" me. It was utterly bizarre. We've stayed in touch it's been such a lovely thing. He's become such a good friend. I feel I've known him all my life.

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beelzeboob · 12/05/2020 05:30

Wow how lovely!
Never happened to me though

ImRealHonest · 12/05/2020 06:25

Once.

Random bar, completely other side of the world.

From the same home city in the UK. Same age. Support same football club. Same random hobby. Talked for hours and hours. We live on different continents. That was October last year. Talk to him most days still.

bettybattenburg · 12/05/2020 06:31

No but how lovely.

Pinkarsedfly · 12/05/2020 07:02

So do you fancy him, or..?

ALovelyBitOfSquirrel · 12/05/2020 08:30

Yes, at a weekend long birthday thing, years ago. Didn't know hardly anyone and neither did DH but it was a good friends 40th so we went. A lady was talking to the birthday boy and I instantly liked her. We ended up talking and swapped numbers etc. Now she's a good friend .I knew instantly there was a connection.

Also when I had a business many moons ago and a first time client came in I really instantly liked her and we just clicked , again, we are still great friends to this day. She says the same, it was weird but lovely.

Pinkarsedfly · 12/05/2020 09:45

Bump.

I want to know if OP fancies him Grin

Bluesheep8 · 12/05/2020 09:47

Ha, so do I!

cheeseycracker · 12/05/2020 09:49

I also think this could be the start of a great romance! Are you single Op?

NurseThePurse · 12/05/2020 10:04

Me! I was lucky enough to be given (totally randomly, I was walking past the venue and someone gave them to me as they could no longer attend) tickets to a sold out show in London. I live no where near London and had made the 3 hour journey that day to do some shopping and sight seeing The tickets were worth hundreds of pounds. I sat next to a lady who was watching the show with her family. We got talking and we had SUCH a connection. She was about 30 years older than me but we chatted away like we’d known eachother forever. During the interval we talked about life, I talked about my abusive ex and things that had led to the path I was on, she spoke about her choices never to have children and travel etc. At the end of the show we gave eachother a big hug and wished each other very well.

I felt such a connection, I really felt like we could be best friends. I think of her often and hope she is well

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raswer · 12/05/2020 15:25

ImRealHonest ooh is there any hope of romance for you both?!

NurseThePurse shame you didn't swap numbers and keep in touch.

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raswer · 12/05/2020 15:46

As for the pp asking if I fancy him. I do. Alot. He's sooo my type! He's so handsome and he doesn't even know it. He's kind of bookish, so intelligent, runs his own business in tech and is super down to earth and laid back. We find each other so easy to talk to. He makes me laugh which is quite a challenge for those who know me! He has beautiful green eyes and a messy mop of dark hair and just perfect!

But

I'm married! I would never ever do anything. I don't know if he feels the same but I know if he did he wouldn't tell me. He's 5 years younger than me so probably not even interested. He's currently single. He's very sweet and generous. At the beginning of the lockdown I was struggling to find certain things in stores and he got hold of some and delivered them as a surprise to me.

I am totally aware that I need to rein in my feelings and not go crazy for him and I have been honest to my DH about him too. He knows who he is etc. Luckily I live very far from London so chances of meeting up with him are very low. In another life in another world it would have been perfect but it not meant to be.

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Highlighta · 12/05/2020 15:54

Yes it happened to me. Many manu years ago whilst I was doing the travelling thing with then dp, now exh. We were at an airport in a far flung place, I went to get water from the machine and this chap was sitting next to it. He said hello and where was I going etc etc. He didn't speak English (French Canadian) and I don't speak French. I had sat down next to him and next minute my then dp called me and said we are boarding. I had been sitting talking to him for 4 hours! It was so strange as I just had this warm comfort sitting talking with him. Still to this day I don't know if he was going to his destination for 3 weeks, 3 months or 3 years Smile. I think about that day a lot.

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raswer · 12/05/2020 15:57

Highlighta What was your dh doing for 4 hours?! Grin

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Windyatthebeach · 12/05/2020 15:59

Got chatting at a bar to a total stranger.. Kissed him within an hour.
Never had a night apart in over 7 years since that night except when I have birth to our dc and was in hospital a week!

NameChange84 · 12/05/2020 16:00

If he’s in his 30s or early 40s please send him my way Grin.

I had a connection to someone once when I was on business for the day in a new city. Didn’t pursue it because I lived in a different part of the Uk. Really regret it!

CoffeeRunner · 12/05/2020 16:04

Yes I did. Someone I met at work on my first day in a new job. From a different country, entirely different life & upbringing. But the only person who has ever instinctively “got” me. And vice versa.

Highlighta · 12/05/2020 16:12

Raswer to be honest I do not even know. I thought I was talking the chap for about ten minutes. It seems talking in hand signs and trying to hold a conversation in two languages is time consuming. 😂

HouseOfSticks · 12/05/2020 16:15

I’ve had this twice. With friends. On separate occasions. It was like friendship at first site. I hadn’t even spoken to either of them and I just knew I was going to be really close friends with them. And I’m still such good friends with both of them.

Bakedpotatoandgin · 12/05/2020 16:30

Yes, once. It was in freshers week at uni so a lot of new people, and perhaps an artificial environment so people definitely made friends faster and deeper than they might usually. But there was this one guy who I met on the first night and immediately knew we'd be friends, having barely spoken properly. A couple of days later we met again, talked for hours, and despite having totally different backgrounds, nationalities and social expectations, there was a strong connection, and we've been close friends ever since. Particularly interesting as all my really close friends before then had been girls, so I wasn't expecting it. (and no, definitely no love interest on either side)

FelicityFlockheart · 12/05/2020 20:04

Sounds like an affair waiting to happen to be honest. And I make no judgements about that incidentally. But does your husband know about this 'never happened before' connection you have, like some sort of star crossed lovers? And how your feelings towards him are romantic - which they clearly are.

If so, then great. If not, maybe think about how you'd feel if it was your husband tapping out the same message on a forum somewhere

Pinkarsedfly · 12/05/2020 20:06

I had a feeling you fancied him and was married.

StillMedusa · 12/05/2020 20:15

Sat at a friend's wedding with a (female) stranger, and chatted ..came away thinking that we would have been great as friends.. she was funny and we just clicked. I was a new mum and she was a high flying career woman miles away...neither of us were locals.

Fast forward 4 years and I'm in the local park with my 4,3 and 2 year old... and there she was with a 2 year old and a new baby... unbeknown to either of us we were both Forces wives.

We've been great friends for 25 years now! She's still a (very) high flying career woman (I'm not!) and we have only lived at the same base once since, but our friendship continues :)

catlover101 · 12/05/2020 21:13

Yes, a colleague who I had to speak to for work related reasons on a communicator tool. We never actually met for about 6 months but we had such a strong connection and would spend hours chatting away everyday. He is a very very good friend now - has been for about 8 years and I am thankful for having him in my life. In true Grey’s Anatomy style, he’s my person Smile .

Ifeel1000yearsold · 12/05/2020 21:17

Not romantic at all but a few weeks after my dad died we went to London to see a show. There was me and my two daughters who were 8 and 10. We were struggling to find the tube station and this lovely old man stopped and guided us. He radiated kindness and care. The interaction probably lasted a minute but it felt like my dad had sent him to show us there were plenty of people who would take care of us. I will always remember that man.

JamieLeeCurtains · 12/05/2020 21:23

Yes. Quite a few over the years, in different places.

Be careful, OP.