Family members who aren't respecting lockdown? pwn

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My dm has been meeting up with friends and family members and generally not taking things seriously since lockdown began. Anyone else in this boat with family members? How are you feeling about it? When lockdown ends, I think I'll feel wary about seeing her as she's not been sensible at all.

Yeah, me. Quite a few of them.

They can crack on now, I’ve given up caring about what anyone else does as long as they don’t try and come near my house.

They are people who I’ve long thought of a quite dim though, so it’s been no shock.

Live and let live. If you don't want to see her then don't.

No but I don't have a mum or inlaws. Members of my extended family and my own immediate have all been observing the guidelines, as have I.

My DM wouldn't let me go round even if I suggested it. I don't see what will change once 'lockdown' ends as I surely won't be any less susceptible to the virus than I am now.

DM has let slip that she's been to a friends house, and still appears to be "popping out" for a paper and a pint of milk.
I'm frustrated and annoyed by it, but realistically she's an adult with perfectly functioning eyes and ears. If she chooses to disregard the TV / radio / newspapers then I cannot stop her and any consequences will be of her own doing.
I have also spent many hours seething at friends / neighbours who appear to feel that the rules simply don't apply to them. It has changed how I view them myself, but as in the case of DM they are free to make their own stupid choices.

Yes, my brother and I have finally given up on trying to get our 80-y-o mother to take lockdown seriously - the latest one was delivering stacks of magazines to two friends under the guise of 'It's allowed, I was helping an elderly person' - yes, who's younger than you, Mum, and you also shouldn't have had coffee in her garden for an hour! I'm 600 miles away and my brother's 200 miles away, so not a lot we can do :( I asked her the week before it came into effect if she wanted to come up and live with us until it all blew over and she said she had too much furniture rearranging and decorating to do. As she can't get any removal men to come and move the heavy stuff for her, she's been taking it to pieces, sliding it down the stairs and reassembling it in the room she wants it in.

Part of me is going, 'Oh God, MUM!' and part of me is hoping I'm still as fit and feisty as her at the same age.

@VeryLittleOwl your mum is my new inspiration!

Thank you, Namechangewhy, she's mine too most of the time :) She was widowed for the third time last autumn and had basically been trapped in the house for almost 10 years before that thanks to a combination of a self-centred partner and his many, many medical appointments (example: he needed a dressing changed on a weekly basis by nurses, it was only after taking him to this appointment for six months on a Tuesday, thus missing her art club meeting every week, that she discovered he could have been booking in for an appointment at the Thursday clinic instead, but hadn't done so because he didn't like her going out to the art club without him...). So she has a bucket list as long as several people's arms that she wants to get through while she's still physically able (things like going on a photographic holiday in Romania, although apparently the Trans Siberian Express is now off the list after she did some research and discovered how much of it was just plains) and she's intensely frustrated that just as she got her freedom back, lockdown happened. So I sympathise to a great extent, but at the same time I want her to be alive to go and do all those things at the end of it and not dead from Covid-19 or squashed under a wardrobe!

@VeryLittleOwl

I don’t think that an elderly mum, presumably living on her own, is doing much harm if she meets a friend in similar circumstances, at a distance, in their garden?
It’s not technically allowed but the exercise to the other persons house would be beneficial, as would the company to negate loneliness.
My 80+ dm hasn’t left her boundary since mid March and I wonder if she will ever do so again. Her mobility wasn’t perfect beforehand but she did manage to get the bus to town each day. She has now physically deteriorated and lost confidence and refuses to go for even a short walk.

VeryLittleOwl I wouldn't worry, your mum sounds like she could scare the virus off with a stern look!

That’s sad sunshine.
I’m not elderly by any stretch , although I did feel all these guidelines were starting to put me in a box....
So that me and dh didn’t completely lose the Plot, we’ve just done our own thing.
Gone out for drives and exercise most days. Occasionally seen family.
The object of the lockdown was to flatten the curve and we’ve succeeded..not make us mentally l physically and emotionally ill.
I feel sorry for people who felt they had to stick rigidly to the letter of of the (law) guidelines
I feel they might struggle.
Your 80 year old mum sounds great owl, we didn’t win a war by cowering in our bunkers...and to me...yes..this has been war
Thankfully with no bullets and bombs raining down on us.

psychomath - she was a nursery teacher, I wouldn't put it past her! She can still quell a 3-year-old with a glance.