We live next door to a complete narcissist, who thinks she owns the whole street, and who thinks that she can do as she pleases but that everyone else has to be dictated to by her. Examples include: Playing music all day, every day in her garden on hot days, up to 2am sometimes, yet going round and screeching at anyone else who plays any music or makes any noise in their gardens. Some young children live behind her house and yesterday they were just playing in their garden and she stood on a chair to look over the fence and shout at them for disturbing her. She also has a dog that barks constantly as it's always in the garden. I have long since given up letting our dog go in the back garden as if he so much as barks once she is hammering on our door shouting at us because of the noise. She also always puts her wheelie bin out each week across our driveway so we have to move it to get out in the car. Yet once the refuse collectors put our bin back accidentally in front of her drive, and she went outside, got her bin in and then kicked ours over, full of rage!
The other experience with someone like this was a woman I met at NCT classes when I had my youngest child. She constantly dictated to us all before and after the birth. We all carried on meeting up for years and she would constantly lecture us all and moan if we did not do as she said, but she did the opposite of everything she preached. For example she had an epidural in labour, but lectured the rest of us that had had one saying we shouldn't have had them, hers was apparently exceptional circumstances as her pain level was higher than anyone else's in labour. She lectured us about choosing schools, and how Ofsted ratings do not matter, then got her son into an Ofsted Outstanding school and went on and on about the Ofsted report. God I'm glad I don't see her anymore!
So back to my thread title, is it common for narcissists to think they can dictate what everyone else does whilst they do the things they try to order others not to do?