Been together 8 years. No sex for last 4/5 years really, though when discussed he says we are best friends and sex isn't everything. I'm 40 and childless, but that's ok. We aren't married. We rent together. He is 56. I found naked men (quite unattractive old ones) and shots of budgie in lycra shorts on his downloads. In the past have found yukky female pics, but recently all male. I haven't told him I've found them. Think he knows though as I'm now locked out of his laptop. I've asked him this week, if he is gay, and planning to pursue it, to please do it sooner rather than later, as not to waste any more of my time. But he says we are happy. Mostly we are, we have fun. But this is making me sad. I don't know what to do. Nothing? Confront him? He does often comment on attractive men in the press like Richi Sunak "what a good looking boy". I feel like an idiot.