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Late September wedding. WWYD?

30 replies

Stingeray · 09/05/2020 12:52

So our wedding is planned for late September. Most things we have already paid for are moveable so we could postpone and that would be absolutely fine. The problem is that I am in my late 30s and we had planned to try for a baby straight away. So our options are:
A)keep the date knowing it might be cancelled or made much much smaller. DPs mum is in the shielding group and we wouldnt want to go ahead unless safe for her to attend.
B) postpone til next year (apparently April and May and the summer are very very full already for wedding venues due to the postponements and we would likely have to change venue and lose our deposit) and put off TTC
C) go ahead and TTC soon and get married while pregnant if we are successful(would need a new dress)
D)Go ahead and TTC soon and if successful wait til the baby is old enough for us all to enjoy the day and me not be breastfeeding anymore (I would be 40 by then and to be honest dont want to wait that long)
E) some other option I haven't thought of

I do realise this isnt a huge problem in the grand scheme of things and if we come out the other side of this pandemic financially stable and with all the people we love healthy we will consider ourselves very very lucky.

OP posts:
Stingeray · 09/05/2020 16:06

Anyone?

OP posts:
CuppaZa · 09/05/2020 16:07

C, if it were me

fafffaffmorefaff · 09/05/2020 16:08

C

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minnie465 · 09/05/2020 16:08

I would go for C

pussycatinboots · 09/05/2020 16:10

C

maleficent53 · 09/05/2020 16:14

C no doubt about it. You may get pregnant easily you may not. Getting married you can organise around life events. Good luck

vinoandbrie · 09/05/2020 16:14

C

lachy · 09/05/2020 16:14

I'd go for C.

Whenever it happens I hope you have a wonderful day, and best of luck with TTC Flowers

PotteringAlong · 09/05/2020 16:16

A

FraterculaArctica · 09/05/2020 16:16

C, though the wedding could end up being very small anyway if you conceive quickly.

ThePlantsitter · 09/05/2020 16:16

C as long as you have a good maternity leave package/ savings and a plan for working afterwards.

burnoutbabe · 09/05/2020 16:17

i would get married in a simple as possible ceremony when they are allowed back on and then TTC. Then big party next year.

But i am risk adverse and would not want to run the risk of the wedding not happening and me being left pregnant and single. (if that is the reason for marrying once pregnant)

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TooDamnSarky · 09/05/2020 16:17

C

GagaBinks · 09/05/2020 16:19

Yes C for me too. It might take years to conceive and it might take years for the world to go back to normal. Can't wait forever.

BessMarvin · 09/05/2020 16:19

I got married with a 15 month old and I certainly wouldn't repeat it. Not sure what age you were thinking of?

JoeySpecial · 09/05/2020 16:21

A or C is what I would choose.

TwelfthOfNever · 09/05/2020 16:40

C. Babies are more important than weddings.

Ellmau · 09/05/2020 16:43

A and C.

happytoday73 · 09/05/2020 16:47

TTC and any option with wedding...
Even if that's getting married just two of you as soon as can with big party whenever

GreenTulips · 09/05/2020 16:48

C TTC
If needed and you get strongly you could marry quickly in a registry office (when allowed) and reschedule a party at another point.

justAnotherOpinion33 · 09/05/2020 16:49

A then c

TimeForACheeseSandwich · 09/05/2020 16:50

Just keep going on the TTC. Park the wedding - or at least the party! - until it's safe to schedule (also saves you £xx,xxx that'll be rather useful for the little one...)

roratone · 09/05/2020 16:51

C, without any doubt

chillipopcorn1 · 09/05/2020 16:52

C! It can take years to conceive.