Posting as I can’t sleep and have no idea how to deal with this. Married to DH for 8 years, 3 DCs. For as long as I’ve known him, DH has been depressed and refuses to seek help. He goes through depressive episodes on average every 6 months which usually involve him becoming really withdrawn. He works hard but as soon as he’s home he just wants to stare at his phone and smoke weed. Sometimes I get the silent treatment and sometimes he storms off for a night or two. Usually once he comes round he is apologetic and remorseful but then the cycle just continues regardless. I try to be supportive and understanding but every time this happens and every time he refuses to get help, I’m ashamed to say I lose a little bit of sympathy for him. Anyway, overall I thought we were happy- he has told me as much. But he’s just slipped into another depressive episode this week and he says it’s all my fault. He hates coming home to me and he’s had suicidal thoughts. He wants to call our marriage a day but he won’t tell me why or what I’ve done to make him feel like this. I don’t know how to help him see that this is the depression talking but part of me has had enough and isn’t sure if this is a way out. Please help, I really don’t know what to do.