Would you tell your neighbours you had put your house on the market?

[IceniSky]

If you on are friendly terms, NYE together, drinks, take outs, kids play, chat, DH helps them fix things, parties, bbqs etc? 5 years.

I'd have thought you would mention it in passing but just been told they are moving out next week! We weren't 'best' friends but thought they would have mentioned it. Maybe we over egged the relationship. Feel sorry for DD really.

Perhaps they only recently told their own dd and didn't want to risk her hearing it from your dd?

I am friends with my neighbour, lived here 8 months. We chat over fence, they are brill with my daughter etc. But I'm not sure they would be high on my list of people to tell if I was moving.

You say not all evenings were instigated by you, to me that implies an awful lot were. Is it possible you have over estimated their friendship on all of this?

That’s very odd. I’d feel hurt! I’d actually ask them i think, in as jokey a way as possible. Especially via text where it’s not so combative.

Yes. Our neighbours sold their flat without telling anyone. We would have bought it if we'd know .

I'd say it was 50 / 50 spilt. We have had a card through with a botle of wine for helping them out with something a couple of times.

Even if we over egged the relarionship I thought you'd say something if you were on friendly terms and the kids played. But maybe the kids didnt know. They have been in 3 schools this school year so far. And the kids have never mentioned it.

I'm going to have another cuppa in bed (watching a movie with DD), then not give this anymore head space.

Our neighbours didn’t tell us, I saw their house on Rightmove. People tend to be funny about putting their houses on the market sometimes. You’re never sure how long it will take to get an offer and it could go on for months. You might get really nice new neighbours! I was quite please our neighbours moved as although our kids were exactly the same ages they never gelled and it always felt awkward that we didn’t want play dates or anything despite living in each other’s pockets (tiny terrace!)

I remember as a kid when my parents put the house on the market. There was a whole drama about telling he neighbours, my sister and I had to each tell our friends in the street.

I think my mum and her friend next door built it up into a huge emotional thing and made it a lot worse. It almost felt like a death😂. We moved a mile away and still saw everyone in school. Mum didn’t even really like the neighbour - they were frenemies. Still in touch though thirty years later.

This is us!! We’re moving out soon and we haven’t told our neighbours yet.

I’m too scared to. We’re not best friends but we’re friendly. I think I might cry! Plus the sale was stressful and we didn’t expect it to actually go through....

.... in fact I still don’t think it’ll go though!

(Before we get any whining about moving - our “new” house is empty)

I have no idea how to tell them

PS - think I might cry because the sale has been stressful

And our house was sold privately so there was no “for sale / sold” sign

We didn't go out of our way to tell our neighbours, though naturally it was mentioned in the first conversation we had with each set after the 'for sale' sign went up - as in, they said, 'see you're thinking of moving?'. It never occurred to me that that was at all odd or rude - is it?! Is it just because there was no for sale sign that some pp think the OP's neighbours had some obligation to tell them, or did we also break some unwritten rule?

Maybe they didn't want to jinx a sale?

Weird though. I can understand why you feel a bit affronted.

We are very friendly with one of our neighbours and both moved in at the same time several years ago so yes I would tell them before the house even went on the market.

Your situation is odd, but then some people can be odd and make you think that you're closer friends than you actually are.

It's odd.

This will be one of those relationships where you're friends through circumstance (living next door) but you probably won't hear from them again once they've moved.