Kindly tell neighbours about noise

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How do I kindly tell my neighbours that there child is being too loud at 3AM in the morning without coming across as rude.

I know if I was to confront them right now my tongue would slip and I don't want any problems with them atall

Depends on the age of the child/what the noise is- 7 year old running around the bedroom =yanbu 1year old teething = yabu

What do you mean by 'being too loud'? Is it a baby crying or a teenager stomping around or shouting at a computer game? Very different approach needed.

As above, more detail is needed.

If it's a baby/under 1 then yabvu, they will know and are probably just as frustrated as you.

If it's a child with sen you are less unreasonable

If it's a teenager on video games you are not unreasonable and just pop round and have a chat about it.

It's a 4 year old who runs about and jumps off furniture

Sod that! Have a word!

Show them some sympathy that there child is up at that time, they must surely want to be sleeping 💤 ask kindly if they are having problems and if there is anything you can do to help

Help? Why ask if you can help- of course op can’t help.
I would just say, “sorry for bothering you, Im sure this is more frustrating for you but do you think there is something you could do regarding the noise at night” etc

At 4 & displaying that sort of behaviour it is very possible that the child has autism or some other SEN. I would tread very carefully as it could create more issues for you.

As above, I would pose it from a well meaning 'can I help' angle rather than appearing to rant about the noise. The truth is they are probably just as pissed off as you!

My dd didn't sleep from being 8 months til she was 5.5 (she is 6.5 now) and whilst she was not allowed to create noise on purpose or jump off furniture, after years of no full nights sleep and often no sleep at all it is hard to have the battle.

Talk to them calmly, make it clear you are not having a go but just asking if there is anything they more they can do to try and help keep it down.

Are you in a flat op?

I very much doubt they need telling - a child awake and causing mayhem at that time is causing them far more headaches than you.

Get some earplugs and you, at least, will be able to ignore it.

If it wasn't for lockdown I would suggest that you ask if you can help in any way by taking the child for an hour during the day to give them a break. (semi serious as you are probably not the best person to look after an over energetic toddler)