Is this bad parenting?

[heythere48]

I have upstairs neighbours and I can literally hear everything down to what room each individual is in.

The parents can't control their 4 year old son. He screams and shouts at them constantly and calls them idiots etc and when he doesn't get his way he becomes a mini Incredible Hulk and starts banging the floors for a good 10 mins.. and this is almost everyday. He also spits at them. They tell him to stop and he continues

Also they make their child go to sleep at 5Am in the morning and throughout the whole night the kid bangs and runs like it's 1pm in the afternoon.

They used to make their child go to bed at 3am and wake up for nursery the following morning quite often as well..

I'm just wondering as I'm not a parent but I come from a family of over 10 siblings and I've never experienced this with my lil brothers and sisters

When you say they ‘make’ him go to sleep at that time, what exactly do you mean?

Make him go to sleep? Or that's when he falls asleep himself? Reading your OP sounds a lot like my son before we knew he was autistic and fully knew what sort of support he needed. Epic "tantrums" which were actually meltdowns, tearing around the place sensory seeking, not sleeping until the small hours, if at all, and then being wide awake again by 8am.

Their bedroom is right on top of mine and I hear the mum always telling him to go and play in the other room or watch tv at stupid o clock

If you are concerned you should try SS and explain your concerns. I would imagine in this situation they would pass it on the HV.

Most of what you are describing is not parenting but the child’s behaviour so it’s difficult to judge. It sounds like the parents may benefit from some support.

Maybe he has additional needs you don't know about

It does sound like potential SEN, my probably ASD child was a nightmare at that age.

What do you hear the parents doing? Are they trying their best or just screaming/shouting at him all the time?

What do you mean about him going to bed at 5am? You mean they all stay up all night then sleep all morning?