What has your DP/DH taught you?

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I'm just thinking about the things my DP has taught me.
So, one of those is that I'm not always right 😂 I was in a hugely abusive relationship for 6 years and spent 3 years in therapy before I met my DP where I was learning that actually, it wasn't me who was in the wrong in the relationship. I'd just about gotten a grasp on that when I met current DP and as a result, I just thought i was right the whole time and justified in whatever I felt/said/did. But over time, with someone who actually loves me, I've learnt that I'm not and it's ok to not be all the time.
Other stuff.... how to cook rice properly! And how to take myself less seriously. Also what it actually looks like to be cared for.
So how about you?

I was a ridiculous people pleaser before I met him and let people walk all over me...he has taught me how to stand up for myself

That I really should live on my own.

That paying to have my bibs cleaned was money well spent.

bins

Ffs

How to watch paint dry

Best typo ever @awkw!!

DH has taught me (without intending to) how to slow down, how to be more selfish, how to trust again, and that video games are actually vaguely interesting (ok, that last one he did actually try with, and saw partial results)

How to do small talk. He's great at chatting away to new people and I've picked up a few tips & the confidence to do it myself.

How to clean and tidy quickly and efficiently. He’s like a whirlwind and it’s somehow rubbed off on me.

How to listen better.

How to make hummus.

How to present food beautifully.

Loads of technical stuff, he’s a tech genius.

How to wind a baby, but I never got as good at it as he was.

That it's ok to 'wing it' sometimes (I am a real plan-ahead kind of person and can get stressed if things don't go to plan/turn out as well as I'd hoped etc).

And that I do have the capacity to feel real desire for someone.

Some Maths

Some more Physics

Economics

How much I hate computer games.

These are all lovely 😊
He's also taught me to take it easier.. he cannot plan anything in advance and while it drives me nuts, I've learnt to chill a bit

That it's OK to be ace at some things and terrible at other things, I don't have to be good at everything. That it takes time to learn and nothing has to be perfect, that I can enjoy doing something that I'm terrible at and that's fine. I don't owe anyone perfection.

That peace and contentment between partners and in a household is achievable.

That I can rest and stop serving others, and the world won't fall apart.

That I can ask for help without feeling ashamed, and that I will be helped properly, without resentment or deliberate incompetence to punish me.

Mine also taught me how to cook rice!

To look a bit further ahead on the motorway.

That dogs have periods.

How to relax on holiday.

How to belay.

That academia isn’t as important is I thought. I’m degree level educated. He’s has no GCSE’s but when we decided to have children his company afforded to employ me (I do work for him) and be flexible enough to to work round the kids. It makes me think exam results aren’t the be all and end all I thought they were and the kids might be better off learning a trade or whatever. Ironically he earns enough to put them through uni but he might struggle to see the point.

How to unpack a suitcase the minute we come home from being away.
Clothes in the laundry basket, toiletries in the bathroom, chargers back in their place, empty suitcase put away.
As opposed to leaving it in a corner of the bedroom for a day. Or two.
Feels so much better to sit down to a cup of tea knowing it’s done.

How to be calm and achieve my full potential.

I had a mad, shouty childhood and was a wildcat when I met him. I don't know how or why he put up with me but 25 years later I'm a better person and about to graduate, starting an MSc in Sept.

That real men are kind, considerate and more than capable of doing their fair share around the house.

That not all men are wankers once in relationships

That I'm actually a cracking cook and that means I legally don't have to do any washing up ever

That the right person thinks you look fit AF whether you're wearing make up or not and they also don't give a shit about that half a stone you worry about

That the right person doesn't shout at you when you flood the bathroom

That many men 'clean' surfaces by wiping around everything on said surface instead of ever, ever moving anything

That I deserve to be loved and don't need to sweat the small stuff

@june2007 me too!
He also taught me that everyone feels the fear, but mastering it is the buzz

That I don’t need to be a loud pita. He has taught me moderation-which I needed, he’s not some crazed controlling person!

He's taught me that I'm worth loving and that contentment and happiness are the best things in the world.

To enjoy cricket

That we can get through anything together