Handhold needed please

[WhoCaresAnyway95]

Social services are visiting my children tomorrow at our home. I really feel shitty at the moment so low and depressed. It's my now ex partners fault and he's disappeared leaving me to take the fall. I'm such a failure, I don't see the light at the end of this tunnel. Mine and DC's lives have dramatically changed in 7 days. Please somebody just give me some comforting words I never wanted to be a single mother

SS are there to help you.
Please be open to listening to what they have to say.
Be very honest with them and reach out to them for help.
Let them know you want to work with them.
What are you now taking the fall for?

He got arrested dismantling stolen cars. Hasn't bothered to contact me since he was released or his children only when he turned up yesterday asking if his parcel had come. I'm really in a un fit state right now I think to even look after my children in just constantly crying

Social Services are there to help, just be honest with them when they come.

Ah yes, I remember your other post.
SS will understand you will be in a state.
But you ARE coping right now.
It might not feel like it but you are.
You know you can do this but they can help with some support for you if they feel you need it.
I'm sorry he's turned out to be such an asshole.
But it is best he isn't there.
Look after yourself.
Try to eat. If you can't stomach solid food then try sugary drinks, soups and smoothies.
Ice-cream is also good if you can get some.
Keep your strength up.
Do easy things with the kids.
Movies and snuggles and screen time to give yourself a break.

Op I remember your previous post. So sorry your partner has just disappeared, what a coward. Please remember this is very early days, you've had a massive shock and as you say your life has changed dramatically. You won't feel so stunned forever, you will pick yourself up and carry on. Take any of the help you can get from social services. It's one day at a time for now. Just do whatever you need to to get through til bedtime. I'm sure lots of women will be along soon with their experiences of becoming a single parent. You can do it too.

Oh, did you have a thread yesterday/few days ago?
If it was you, you've clearly had a massive shock, your world has imploded, and you've been left to deal with a massive fallout. No wonder you're feeling so low, anyone would.
SS are there because they've had a report that means they have to check that your children are OK. You need to make it clear that you do and will continue to provide a stable loving environment for them, and that is actually likely to be self-evident.
Have you spoken to the police and taken legal advice yet? That needs to happen ASAP, especially explaining to the police that he's not at your home but staying elsewhere.
It's not just you having to deal with all the fallout, it's that suddenly your family has fallen apart too, that your H who you thought you could rely on has dropped you right in it. It's awful, and I hope there is someone in real life who has your back and is looking after you.

Yes that was me. I have contacted the police who were quite rude and said, they have already been informed and they cannot tell me anything because it is none of my business being as we are now separated and no longer in a relationship. I didn't dare incriminate myself, I have tried a local solicitor, left a voicemail for him to give me a call back.

It's really really hurt me more so I think because of his ballsy attitude to rock up at my door for a parcel yesterday. I felt angry yesterday, today very upset. I understand social services are here to help, I will be honest with them tomorrow about my feelings and hope they can help me into new accommodation or at least point me in the right direction for this.

I need to do a shop but cannot even think about facing the outside world. Nobody is judging in these 4 walls, just me, my daughter and my son. I'm so vulnerable once I'm outside, I don't think I could concentrate to drive to my supermarket. I am very pissed I have to deal with social services on my own due to his actions

Sorry but why are you involving a solicitor ? He got arrested so let him crack on and face the music

The eBay and PayPal were in my name and linked to my bank account so some people kindly pointed out I can be linked to the crime without me even knowing, they suggested I speak to a solicitor before the police come for me too.

Why are SS involved? What happened to ping you on their radar? I understand your other half did something and had left but that wouldn't normally involved SS visiting your home unless there was a welfare concern