Does anyone else feel both needy and angry towards DP at the same time after a row?

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Does anyone else feel both needy, clingy but also angry towards DP at the same time after a row?

He will be the loud shouty easily irritable one but forgets and forgives easily. Whilst I am slow to reach anger (don’t get angry easily) but will hold onto the grudge for a long term and analyse it over and over in my head so feel I suffer more. During the analysis time I will feel needy, wanting reassurance from him, whilst also angry and not wanting to see the sight of him.

Yes, I feel exactly like that. I thought I was the only one!!

Thanks for your reply. Good to know I’m not the only one. More replies welcome :)

It's a strange contradiction, isn't it? You wouldn't expect to feel like that after an arguement. I think in me, any way, it's linked to an intense fear of abandonment.

Yeah me too - I agree with you. Like a subconscious fear of abandonment.