First Baby

[lou1997]

Hi I don’t know where to turn too apart from people who actually understand I’m not sure if I want advice or just to let off steam.. I’m pregnant with my first baby I‘ve just turned 23 and I am struggling(!!!) I’m nauseated but I can’t be sick I’m crying 23 hours of the day and I’m exhausted! I’m thinking about leaving my job I’m currently half way through an apprenticeship (which I was already thinking about dropping before I got pregnant) but I’m worried about bills my partner works for himself and he would earn enough to cover my side of the bills but I know he wouldn’t want too but at the minute I can’t bring myself out of bed and if I do I end up asleep on the sofa... I don’t know where I’m going with this but I’m struggling :( X

I'm assuming you're in the first trimester or early second. It's the worst part. Get on the phone to the GP for anti sickness tablets and take those. It's the only thing that got me through until about week 16. The constant crying is temporary (you do still cry but less) as is the exhaustion. If you're that bad ask the GP for a sick certificate to give yourself a break. You really shouldn't be at work unless you have to due to CV19. Keep your job, and look into what you get maternity leave and pay wise. Having no income isn't going to help you particularly if your gem of a partner doesn't wish to support you. I personally wouldn't rely on a partner for income. If they leave you they owe you nothing only the maintenance for the child. If they are self employed and canny then you could end up with nothing when their income miraculously drops to almost zero! You only need to read this forum to know this happens all too often.

I'm sorry if I'm coming across harsh, but you need to know these things if you don't already.