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Gifting on...for a niece

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Stanley18 · 30/04/2020 21:48

If your brother in law and wife ( both comfortable) gave your newborn daughter gifted on bibs and a second hand dress as a present what would that mean to you?

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SylvanianFrenemies · 30/04/2020 21:49

If it was in good condition I would assume they liked the stuff and didn't want it to go to waste.

bigchris · 30/04/2020 21:51

How do you know it's not new ?

Also it's lockdown people are skint and no shops are open

Fairylillie · 30/04/2020 21:52

I be thinking that they don't have very much money right now. Some people might appear to have lots of money but in reality could be living off their overdraft and maxing out their credit cards.

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Stanley18 · 30/04/2020 21:53

This was long long before lockdown.Just something that has always made me curious and I can assure you they are not broke

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INeedNewShoes · 30/04/2020 21:54

If they're nice clothes and in good condition, I'd see it as a lovely meaningful gift.

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Stanley18 · 30/04/2020 21:56

The dress had no tags and as my daughter was so petite I took it into the shop to exchange for different size and was told it wasn't current

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INeedNewShoes · 30/04/2020 21:57

Any of DD’s nice clothes I would only give to people I really like.

MarylandMayhem · 30/04/2020 21:58

As long as the clothes are in good condition I would think it a nice gift.

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Stanley18 · 30/04/2020 22:00

Interesting to see other views.Forgot to mention bibs were intended for a boy.Just amazed that a couple would give their bro and partner gifted on stuff as a welcome new baby gift

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TheVeryHungryTortoise · 30/04/2020 22:01

I think it depends. If they're nice baby clothes and something that you could assume they'd think you would like I think it fine.
If not I would be offended that they had just given me their cast offs as a gift instead of getting something with a little more meaning/thought.

My MIL gives me her reject presents every year and pretends that they're new (think couple of years out of season clothes from Hobbs/Boden etc.) I find that so insulting because they're never anything like my style and it just looks like she doesn't care. She's also bought me a teapot for the last three years... I don't even drink tea. Hmm

INeedNewShoes · 30/04/2020 22:02

Ah are you saying they're new but gifts received for their DC that they chose not to use? That feels less nice!

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Stanley18 · 30/04/2020 22:04

If you then consider that they gave her/us her 1st birthday gift and card 6 wks late what would you make of that? ( lockdown = time to mull over stuff)!!

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Stanley18 · 30/04/2020 22:05

Exactly that.Our bubs and theirs born 4 wks apart

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Popskipiekin · 30/04/2020 22:11

I’d think you are a bit grumpy due to lockdown, are overthinking and determined to find fault where perhaps there is, perhaps there isn’t, but it’s really not worth getting in a stew about Flowers

My brother is wonderful. Sometimes he gets gifts for our DSs, sometimes he doesn’t. I don’t nitpick whether or not he gives or what he gives or when he gives, as I have a close relationship with him that is not predicated on him giving me/my children presents. You don’t appear to like your BIL very much. That’s ok. Just don’t tie yourself in knots about their reasons for giving what and when they have. Best to move on.

bluebluezoo · 30/04/2020 22:12

I’ve never heard of “gifting on” before, presumably it means they recieved a gift they are now passing to you?

Absolutely wouldn’t bother me. So much money is wasted buying baby gifts because people think they should or like buying impractical pink dresses that never get worn.

I’d feel far less guilty about charity shopping it or re-gifting it myself.

99% of the stuff we were bought we never used. Nike trainers for a newborn, more pink tat than we could ever have used. I took what i could back and exchanged for babygrows and vests, and regifted/charity shopped the rest.

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Stanley18 · 30/04/2020 22:22

Thank you all for your replies,I realise that I could have detailed my point a bit more clearly!
I believe that when giving a gift for a new born,especially for your niece a little thought is a lovely thing.Unlike when I.was a bubba clothing and stuff in general is so much cheaper than ever.Even with a small budget you can choose something relevant rather than unwanted bibs for the opp sex.Guess I am more sentimental

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plunkplunkfizz · 30/04/2020 22:25

Forgot to mention bibs were intended for a boy.

Your “bubs” isn’t going to grow a knob if it uses a bib with some blue on it.

PawPawNoodle · 30/04/2020 22:48

By 'more sentimental' you seem to mean that you expect money to be spent on your child and if the gifters are a bit well off, you expect a 'little thought' which presumably means more money spent.

Your bubba (🤮) isn't aware of how much things cost or whether it's a new item or not.

SylvanianFrenemies · 01/05/2020 19:40

This is a year ago?! Find something more interesting and current to obsess over.

CommunistLegoBloc · 01/05/2020 20:05

Unless the bibs say something specifically about being a boy (I know babies can't read but agree that would be an odd choice) then they're for either sex. But I suppose if your daughter is a lesbian in 18 years, you'll know why!

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