How are you REALLY finding lockdown?

[MinnieAnonyMouse]

Full disclosure, I am very lucky in that I'm able to wfh, we have a nice sized garden and no kids yet. I appreciate my position is very different to some people who have no access to the outside / houseshares / living with abuse / lost jobs etc.

How are you finding lockdown? Aside from the minor issues like I miss being able to go to the shop just because I fancy something and I'd like to see my mum, it's not affecting us too badly. I'm quite an introvert at the best of times and this has reiterated that I am very happy at home and am not all that bothered about leaving. I'm loving not having a very long commute!

I wondered how everyone else was getting on - I can't be the only one who isn't overly fussed by it all? As I say, fully appreciate I'm very lucky. Feel free to rant!

Enjoying it for now, well set up to wfh, DC’s good age for getting on with school work without too much help. I enjoy cooking and being at home and we’re all getting on well.

I’m okay with this going on for longer for me personally but I know that my eldest DD would be happier if she could see friends and get back to school so for her sake I hope some relaxation of the rules starts to come in to give her some hope.

I'm bloody hating it now.

We could carry on under lockdown for months if necessary tbh. Wfh, dd5 is able to entertain herself, we have a nice house and garden. I am grateful for what we have.

I am fascinated by this thread. Makes me think I'm missing something.
I am not bored. I am not frustrated. I do not resent my movements being restricted.
A member of our immediate family died of confirmed Covid two weeks ago today, suddenly and unexpectedly. I am grateful that the restrictions are protecting other, more vulnerable family members.
WFH (teaching at school on weekly rota and creating content for remote teaching, marking and feedback) is amazing; the hours are crazy now, as I start my teaching day after my DC's bedtime and work until midnight or 1am to be able to work uninterrupted, but I love being able to take a toilet break when needed and not have to deal with persistent disruptive behaviour. I didn't think I was struggling with this before, but this time of remote teaching is making me realise that it actually is quite stressful.
I do not think about the things I am not 'allowed' to do during lockdown; I have some friends who are driving themselves crazy obsessing about their freedoms being curtailed.
I'm loving not having to give a shit about my appearance. L o v i n g it! A wilderness of grey hairs? Bring it on!
The thing keeping me awake at night is the devastating impact on the global South in particular, and subsequent food shortages in western economies, the very things I have worried about as a result of the climate emergency.

All good in my house. No ones bored, restless. I can't really find a difference between now and how life usually is.

Fine. We have all been carrying on as normal though. The only thing missing is our meals out but we have replaced that with take aways and movie nights.

I work from home anyway. But would usually have meetings out if the home and a day in the office at least once a fortnight. I'm missing the variety of that.

Have two teens who barely interact with me and I'm struggling seeing the perfect happy family posts on social media. We do eat together once a day but not much else beyond that.

I'm grateful to live within a stones throw of green space and that we can go out to exercise. I also enjoyed my garden and sitting out to read when it was sunny.

Missing being able to see my boyfriend beyond him dropping off my shopping and a clandestine walk from time to time. Again struggle with social media posts of happy couples having lots of time together. And also just knowing most of my friends are genuinely enjoying the time with their partners. Don't begrudge them, just can feel lonely and isolated.

Miss my mum. My nephews and nieces. My nephew is 2 and will have changed loads in 5 weeks. Miss family meals out.

Worry about my teens mental health. One is struggling after years of hating school to now be cut off from college after finally finding their feet. Another is relishing the isolation and I think will struggle to reintegrate.

Happy to have good friends. Enjoying zoom nights and WhatsApp groups. But missing real human interaction.

Grateful for a comfortable home. The internet. Streaming services. Good friends. Wine. Gin. My BF. Having a supportive job.

I'm enjoying it to be honnest dreading when it all goes back to normal 🙈I just wish I had a garden! Living in a flat with 3 children and sunshine all day sucks, but we are all enjoying being at home.

I’m ok for me.

I’m worried for my children.

My DC are early 20s and I'm worried for their future.

I'm on immunosuppressive drugs and they're worried about me. My work has fallen off a cliff.

DP needs to see a doctor but that's easier said than done.

And we're all worried about money. And I can't sleep. Again.

So yeah, it's going really well.

I'm ok.
Key worker (school) but on a rota so I'm only in 2-3 days a week and we are 1:1 with the children (special school) which is amazing. It also lets me have conversation with adults I haven't either married or given birth to!
5 adults in my home but all key workers so we aren't more on top of each other than usual . The dog loves having me home more.
I don't do social stuff so having a reason to avoid people is fine, I've cooked more, learned a difficult piece of music for my guitar and am crocheting a blanket.. quite content except for our money ..DH is on restricted hours so it's a bit tight.
I love the quiet... walking my dog in the mornings there are so many more birds, deer, all sorts of wildlife just trotting around.

I worry about my daughters ( a doctor on the frontline 300 miles away and a nurse who lives at home) and I miss seeing my Mum and three people I know have died. But I am grateful to be alive at the moment and don't resent my lack of freedom.

I'm (so far) enjoying it.
Been a lot of stress with eldest and school past couple of years (high school age)
Nice and chilled with youngest who's totally opposite and pleasure to home teach.
No stressing in a morning, no having to rush off everywhere, can just do work from home.
Getting on lovely as a family as no outside interference and undermining as a parent as can't mix with MIL (don't get me wrong, she's caring but she causes me a lot of stress with her constant undermining, trouble causing, and general negativity) just general toxic blah.
Even everything not being available in shops makes things a bit more simpler. Kind of this is what there is like it or lump it attitude to fussy git kids lol.
So I'm focussing on the positives

I'm loving it. I am now furloughed after working for 3 weeks. This is the first time I have properly stopped in my whole working life. Holidays are usually active sightseeing/non stop type thing or visiting family.

I've still got a lot on my 'to do' list but I'm chilled about it.

Being stuck under the same roof as a chain-smoking alcoholic and a chain-smoking narcissist all day every day isn't a barrel of laughs.

People are dying ffs.
Indeed they are. Of suicide because of depression, low mental health, financial worries, worried they might never see their family again, the feeling that their future is ruined and there is nothing left to live for, all brought about by this lockdown beloved by MN

So very well said, @wanderings

I wonder how many people on here would be in favour of lockdown if they weren't furloughed/WFH/living in a nice big house with a garden? Not that every one who is in either of these categories is necessarily enjoying it either, obviously - having money or space doesn't stop you being abused or bored or miserable or run ragged by small children - but having money coming in and not sharing a tiny indoors space with several other adults could make it slightly more palatable.

I think many of the posters on this thread have flagged up that they feel lucky to have gardens, good family relationships and/or money coming in.

FWIW many of my friends are pretty much describing things as semi idyllic. That's not my experience (although I have good days as well as bad ones).

I'm sure you can recognise your good fortune AND that there are enormous problems outside your front door (or behind other people's doors).

I'm not sure what you want people to do differently.

Starting to worry about money.
Been Furloughed on full pay since April 1st but there is a hint it might be 80% for May.. I just hope they tell us with plenty of notice
Only earner in household and full wage not enough anyway.

Worried about my DDs future, she was due to sit GCSEs this year and the school went through a lot of turmoil and rubbish Ofsted. New management took over and in the last year they've given everything to try and get the kids back on track and DD took everything they offered and really worked. Kind of had the wind knocked out of her sails with no exams and a sudden and unexpected end to her school years. Struggling with motivation. She well start college in September (hopefully) but I'm worried she's lost all her motivation and she's just feeling a bit what's the point at the moment. Understandable.
Concerned about money, spending more and saving nothing not working, and furloughed. Should manage just but savings that took a while to build are gone having lived on them for 6 weeks with no wages. Can't start to replace as the 20% was what I was saving. And I'm sick of hearing about what a lazy scrounger I am because I'm furloughed. Getting real fucking sick of that.
Also that the business I work in won't make it through, it's been shown that hospitality isn't essential to people's lives, and I think people will realise that as well as having less disposable income themselves, and following being shut we'll see a decline in footfall.
Am volunteering, that's a positive, we're needed around here. But that in itself is worrying, so many people struggling and doing without and it's heartbreaking sometimes.
Think I'm just feeling fed up and down today.
Guess everyone is allowed that now and again right.

I think people just want a guilt free moan and have permission not to see the lockdown as an opportunity to re-evaluate their lives or learn a new skill. For many, it's about getting through it which is indeed how it should be. It's an international crisis, not a sabbatical taken for navel gaving.

Of course we are grateful we or our families are not dying from COVID19. On the scale of the worst thing that can happen from 1-10 with 10 being the highest, this is the worst. But that doesn't mean we can't pretend the 1s, 2s, 3s and 4s don't exist either for then where will we be?

Not great. One of my children is really struggling. I’m stuck in a relationship I should have been leaving. I’m worried about money. On the surface of things, we’re ticking along ok getting through each day but there’s an awful lot bubbling under the surface that’s making me feel quite stressed.

Like it, enjoyed it, time to process, reflect, just be... I'm an introvert and like my own space. Retired during lockdown so pressure well and truly off, no tush to get back to any of the "stuff" zI used to do....