Does anyone have a fantasy alternate life? LIGHTHEARTED.

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Disclaimer before I get flamed - I love my DH and I love my son and no I do not intend to leave them, and no I am not ungrateful for what I have.

I feel like your fantasy life always differs vastly from what you've got - so when I was single in my fantasy life I was this earth mother with a few precious little children, happy baking and doing craft etc.

Obviously the reality of having a young child bears no resemblance whatsoever to what it was in my head at that point, but there you go.

Now I'm living "that" life, in my fantasy life I'm single and live on my own in a lovely little flat somewhere in North London, which I've decorated exactly to my own taste, and there I work from home and potter about in my little courtyard garden, popping breezily out whenever I please and living in perfect solitude and peace and quiet with my cats.

I feel like this also works with fantasy partners - for example when I was a teenager and I used to go out with bad boy alpha male types I used to fantasise about geeky, intellectual indie boy types. Then when I got older and started going out with that type (and married one of them) my fantasy boyfriend is a brooding, bulky, SAS hitman type of person.

Am I slowly going round the twist in lockdown or do other people have these idle fantasy alternate lives too?

Yes! In my fantasy life me and my DH live somewhere hit (like some of the South American states) in an off grid house.
We grow our own food and have lots of animals/pets.

Totally different from my real life!

I meant hot, not hit.

I have also had "off grid" fantasies of rural life - keeping my own bees and all that. In reality I'm far too lazy to bother with the likes of that

Ha, I think the reality would be so different. I’d probably get annoyed at not being able to pop to Tesco for M&Ms whenever I liked

Oh yes!

I imagine I live in Thailand. I did several years ago for a year and loved it. I would love DH and the Dcs and I to live in Thailand, or maybe even Singapore.

I also imagine living in the far arctic north. Or the outer hebrides. A few years back I was OBSESSED with the idea of moving to a little Island in the outer hebrides. Then I watched a programme about (I think) Fair Isle and they said they had something like 34 people on the Island and I realised that there were more than 34 people in the church we attend and they annoyed the shit out of me most of the time.

I have fantasy lives, although they're mostly altered versions of my current life, rather than completely different spaces. They vary, but they usually stem from particularly interesting or worrying dreams

Yes- several of them!

I’m a property developer. I also run a cosy little tea room, whilst being an author, maintaining my little rural homestead, teaching yoga classes, all while being a SAHM

Me too we live in wales near the beach, more children and more dogs, in fact probably running our own business to do with dogs, more animals I'd quite like some goats sheep ducks and chickens, we have a large play room and possibly a little cafe too in an outdoor barn area where I can make jam and milkshakes etc and the weather is sunny or at least fine almost all of the time!

@ChandlerIsTheBestFriend running a cosy tea room is another of mine. Or running a B&B from a big farmhouse. Making fry ups or croissants in the mornings.
I bloody hate making fry ups, so I have no idea why I think it would be fun!

Or running a B&B from a big farmhouse.

Yes!! And I can’t even cook!

I spend hours browsing local property websites for houses I could do up to run as a B&B. I don’t even own the house I live in never mind having one to let rooms go someone else.

Neither do I..I rent a council house!! I spend ages on RightMove doing the same!

I live by the sea writing best selling novels and am in a fab relationship with a sexy, caring man.

I've achieved the first of those.

In mine, I always have the perfect zinger comeback for the (so many) occasions when someone pisses me off. My fantasy life basically overwrites history - all those times when I found myself speechless.

. I’d probably get annoyed at not being able to pop to Tesco for M&Ms whenever I liked Like now, then?

This is why I play Animal Crossing. I can do nothing but catch fish and bugs all day. I can sell fruit for money and my best friend is a talking cat. Plus I can go round sticking sharks in my pocket. Can't do that irl, sadly.

This sounds like an exercise from "the artist's way" (might restart that!).
I am a landscape gardener (I hate planting) and have a blog or a website dedicated to atmospheric photographs of deserted beaches (which I take, probably very very early in the morning).
I go on eco riding holidays in Argentina and Uzbekistan. I speak flawless French but am not at all pretentious.
(I've ridden a horse maybe 5 times in my life, and that was during the last century, never stayed in France and never been outside Europe).

Well I didn't, but I'm starting to think of one now!

All your fantasy lives are much more exciting than mine! I should go back to one I used to have a while ago (unusually unlike reality), in which I lived in a log cabin and slept in a hammock. I bartered the meat from my traps for cloth, and sewed all my own clothes. I also ate a lot of oats, for some reason

My current fantasy is that I'm not in lockdown,that COVID hasn't happened, that my cleaner has come,changed the bed,vacuumed and my house smells of Pledge.
And that, m'dears, is as unlikely as all yours