Miserable in new job

[dandeloin]

Hi All,

I know I am very lucky to have a job, under the current circumstances but please bear with me and share any words of encouragement. I resigned from my previous job almost 3 months ago, to start my "dream" job in another local firm. I was so bored in my previous role, but in hindsight I should have whole-heartedly accepted that boredom in exchange for never having to bring work home, always getting out of the office right on time, never worrying about work outside of working hours. The new job is full on.. late nights and some weekend work seem to be the norm, even though its a Mon-Fri office based job. I don't have bandwidth in my life for that, with 3 small kids (2 of whom are disastrous sleepers), the money isn't much more than my previous salary but I jumped a the opportunity for something "different". I just don't know what to do, every day I think its going to be the day when I ask my former manager to keep me in mind if something else comes up in that "very small" company. This is probably ludicrous given what the world is going through right now, and I will probably make a complete fool of myself for even asking, but I am finding it so hard to settle into the new job. Saying that, I am only there 2 months (its a huge workplace compared to what i was used to, i miss my old friends and colleagues) and we have been working from home for most of my time there, again something which is new to me.I don't know what I'm asking for really, just some words of wisdom/encouragement... "it takes 6-12 months etc to settle into a new job"... or do I just need a kick up the @ss and get on with it? I was in my last job 12 years so of course this level of change is just huge to deal with, as well as all of the other worries that we are bearing these days... Thanks so much

Have you asked your manager for support in managing your workload/expectations?

I would ask previous employer, they had you for 12 years! Corona puts it in perspective, life is too short to be in a shit job if you have other options and it sounds like you do.

I think sometimes you just know early on what the culture is, what the managers are like.. and even when you get used to your role you might find the add more jobs or change whats expected of you.

Hi All,

almost a month on from my original post and well, things haven't changed much. I still hate the new job, still working from home, have a constant knot in my stomach about the whole thing. I did ask my old manager about taking me back but my role was filled before I even finished there so the best she could do was promise to keep me in mind if anything else comes up, Thats fine, I couldn't ask for much more. In the meantime, I have a contact for another small local firm. The "contact" is one of the top managers with the place. I have been advised to send in my CV. I would be amazed if anything came of it, given what the world is going through right now. But my question is, do I reference my current position (which I've been in for only 3 months) on my CV, or in the email which I will send them? Does it look really bad to have a 2-liner of work experience followed directly by plenty of details about my previous role which I held for 12 years? How do I get around the fact that I am looking for something else after such a short time? Any words of advice would be appreciated. Thanks!