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Firefox24 · 28/04/2020 21:21

Hi Ladies

Looking for advise. I'm temporarily living at my mums with my 8 year old son and husband to be while waiting for sale of our house and buying a new one.
My mum is 62 years old and our relationship is coming to breaking point this is because she does nothing around her house, if it wasnt for the fact that myself and hubby do all the cleaning then the house would be a pigsty.
All she does is sit in her bed all day everyday and only leaves the house to go to work, shopping and if my sister (who I dint get on with anymore) and her kids come round so I keep out the way and yet i'm made to be the bad one.
She washes very little and sometimes she smells so bad that i have to leave the room or open the windows, I to do all the cooking coz shes has stopped doing it and now we have been forced to pay the rent as she got into arrears (this is to keep a roof over hours heads till the new house becomes available). I am now having to keep my son from her as he picks up her bad habits like wanting to stay in bed.
I'm even having therapy because her negative vibes are having a big effect on my and my relationship with my hubby.
I really dont know what to do as she wont get help anymore as she says "whats the point it doesnt help" but she never gave it a chance.
She is stressing my out and I cant stand to be around her.

Any suggestions are welcome :)

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gobbynorthernbird · 28/04/2020 21:59

Move out.

mightym · 28/04/2020 22:01

I agree with PP, can you stay with someone else or rent somewhere short term?

Firefox24 · 28/04/2020 22:12

we have spoken and I think its the best thing to do but as i have been furloughed i dont know if i will have a job to go back to

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Cosyblanky · 28/04/2020 22:22

Sounds awful situation. Your mum sounds depressed to say the least. You say you are living in her house and talk very negatively about her. If you really have no choice but to stay you have to make the best of things. You need to try to think positively and accept you won't be able to change her, to make her the person you think she should be.

Firefox24 · 28/04/2020 22:29

Cosyblanky i have tried talking to her and getting her some help and all im getting is yeh ill do it when im ready but she has been like this for years

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