Anyone else having an off day today? 😭

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On the whole lockdown hasn’t been bad for us, DH Is a key worker but work is quiet and has been doing a lot of WfH, 3 DC are very happy and generally entertaining theirselves, we have a lot of outdoor space and animals and the weather has been awesome.

I’m also quite good at keeping morale up, encouraging eldest DD to bake when she starts to get a bit grumpy, crafting with youngest when she is bored, lots of family quizzes, movies, BBQ’s, romantic meals and I have smugly been thinking that we are doing great.

I however woke up this morning in a right grump, house feels tiny, DH isn’t (obviously irrationally on my part) telepathically sensing my neediness and how emotional I’m feeling and doesn’t seem to be doing anything right, the sound of DC playing hide in seek in my clean laundry cupboard, the garden shed all the while dragging the entire bastarding lawn in and out the house is giving rage.

Poor DH has just came up and asked if I would like him to make me a cocktail that I could enjoy in the garden and I have just burst into tears and told him to shut the door on the way out...

All of a sudden I just feel very peopled out, like I’m living the same day everyday and that everything is losing its enjoyment level...even my beloved wine! 😭

Anyone else? What do you do to snap yourself out of it?

Yes I have those sometimes too, I was meant to zoom friends on that day last week and had to abandon ship. I felt teary all day, sad and low for no apparent reason. I have a lovely dh and 2 dc who are brilliant generally and we're ticking along generally pretty well in lockdown.

I've had days where I've felt full of beans, cleaning, home schooling...again, no apparent reason.

I just wrote it off as a crap day. You're not alone.

Yes. I'm having a crap day. I just want peace and quiet and to not have to interact with anyone today.

DD is going stir crazy because she just wants to play with her friends. (she's 4, so although she understands a little bit about what is going on, she's doesn't understand why she can't have her friends round to play.

DH is tackling the loft, and the noise of him screwing boards down is just .

I'd kill OH for suggesting this but now I set reminders for myself...could it be PMT?

Yesterday! DH started off feeling low and then that transferred to me! Done a load of gardening today to work it off

Yep.

Yesterday we all dressed as pirates, barbecued mackerel and danced to sea shanties. I also fitted in an online Zumba strong class and morale was high.

Today I’ve been tired, snappy, grumpy, don’t really know what to do with myself, can’t relax but too tired to do anything productive, kids driving me insane.....

I’d say on average I have 2 days a week like this, and the rest are great. I dunno. I guess the baby kept me awake a lot last night so I am really tired.

Tomorrow’s a new day.

Hope it’s a better day for you too.

I'm just done with it today.

Done with always being the parent whilst DH potters around, 'works' out in his office for hours and generally does as he pleases whilst I still have to think about what's for dinner, entertaining the kids and trying to work.

Yes I’m feeling demotivated and bored today, wondering how long all this is going to go on for. I feel like my life is on hold, but more troubling, I feel like my dc’s (all young adults) lives are on hold, and it’s not fair. I do realise we are actually very lucky, but I’m not thinking reasonably or rationally today!

@circusintown funnily enough, bad PMT is exactly but it’s definitely not as I’m mid cycle

Kids have now taken their soul sucking happiness out to the trampoline and I have just slammed the bedroom window shut...

Eughhh, is it too early for bed?!

@Lucylivesinamushroomhouse

This sounds exactly like me, very Jekyll and Hyde...

Hope you have a better day tomorrow too...X

I've had bad days too especially when I feel cooped up in my small flat.

What really helps for me is to do some exercise. I went out for a long walk in the sun today and felt good when I got back.

I’m struggling a little too today.
Every Sunday DP has a FaceTime call with his dad, stepmum, uncle, and brother. They talk for over an hour. It’s such a difference to my family. I don’t have contact with any family except my parents, and phone calls to them last about three minutes. I guess I just feel a bit unloved today, and lonely.

Sunday's are difficult they aren't my best day of the week anyway so I usually get right away with my Dd for the day but that's not an option at the moment. Sick of being cooped up in our tiny flat with no garden, I'm not too bad during the week but Sunday really gets to me.

@TheReluctantCountess

Aww that sounds a rubbish way to feel, hope the moment is fleeting.

Today has been ok but I've definitely had days when it feels like I've hit a wall. I think we all have a reserve of energy (physical and emotional) that we're drawing on more heavily than usual, and when it's gone, it's gone. We all need 'me' time to replenish.

Yes I’m definitely having my worst day yet. Worrying about everything and can’t see an end in sight

I've been doing ok, very busy, enjoying the amazing weather. No trouble getting the food I want, very used to days on my own anyway.

Lovely walk this morning. I come back to neighbour at the back with his French doors wide open and his incessant rap and miserable sounding country and western music blaring out over the entire neighbourhood...and a blasted thumping base.

He does this nearly every sunny fri/sat/sun...for hours. I have to come inside but even with the latest uPVC doors and windows shut I can hear it, especially the base. Luckily I can go into a room at the front of the house where I am now.

[I've tried sitting in the front garden but the sound travels even to there.]

The next door neighbour is deaf and has her TV on loud enough so I can now hear that! I am now in a foul mood and intend to put the house up for sale the day the estate agents open. I've had enough.

Complaining would back fire, the bloke at the back is a bully and could make my life even more of a misery. Through experience I'm not going to risk it.

I am like you on some days OP

I am the rock, the anchor, the one that keeps the family unit afloat. But occasionally I have a real down day

I would have said yes to that cocktail! my DH “only” provides tea

Just had a zoom meeting with friends and only now, weeks and weeks in, do I realise how tough this is for my non-complaining friend who is a single mum of a young boy in a flat in London

Too wrapped up in myself to notice, until she mentioned how lonely evenings are...

So gave myself a kick up the backside and putting more energy in communication with friends who live alone

... and drinking that cocktail

Yes not a bad day but I'm very demotivated today. I am mid heavy period which doesn't help. I've pegged out some washing today. Made anyone made fire pit in the garden. Made pancakes and egg and bacon sarnies but literally nothing else. Kids have been watching films all afternoon. Perhaps we all need a day off.

Yes but I do have PMT today so that is part of it.

Generally I find lockdown ok but am finding the pressure from school to keep up with work when I have four altogether, at different stages and two of them with additional needs a bit overwhelming.

I feel torn between not turning home into a warzone and keeping up.

I feel low today too. I can't imagine ever just wandering round the shops, going for a Saturday afternoon cocktail, going to the gym, enjoying gigs etc again. There's nothing to look forward to either as everything is cancelled! I know it could be a lot worse, I just feel meh about everything today.

Right you lovely lot, I feel so much better I’m not on my own, definitely don’t feel like the most horrible mum and wife in the world anymore...

I have had a shower, declined a cocktail and about to accept a little Stella, I have a feeling I’m either going to end up pissed as a fart or in bed for 8...

Thankfully the noisy and slightly feral children are at the other side of the house and I can’t hear a thing...

The juries out if DH will last the night!! 😂

A little moan and a shower always helps . Enjoy your Stella, hopefully we will all feel a bit more positive in the morning.

Yep me too. Kids are driving me insane with the constant bickering and noise. I ordered the kids some craft stuff yesterday from amazon and a couple of treats for them to play with, in the order I chucked in a foundation for myself. Today the parcel arrives and the kids are over the moon with their toys as I am about my new foundation. Cooking there dinner tonight I thought the youngest was content infront of peppa, goes to check on her 3 mins later and she's smeared the foundation all over my cloth sofa I might just cry!! Bath and bed for them because I've had just about enough of them. Roll on work tomorrow.

Me It’s all fine, we’re lucky and healthy and financially secure and it’s all fine. But I’m just fed up today. I miss my mum and dad and my friends. I don’t mind that I’m not doing anything today or next week or the week after even, but I feel sad that that there’s nothing to plan or look forward to. I love planning weekends away, dinners for friends, nice things. But there’s nothing to look forward to any time soon and we don’t know when there will be. And today that makes me feel sad.

I'm counting down to 9 when I can go to bed
Dreading work tomorrow too, tired and ratty