Ex-H just picked up DD in a really foul mood 😒

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Sorry - just need to vent as it has left me feeling really upset. We have been divorced for a very long time and while he has been decent in some respects, there is a long history of him being really horrible to me for no reason at all. I just feel it’s really unfair, as he is the one with the lovely life - happy new family, huge house, etc. He was also really horrible to teen DD when he picked her up this morning. It seemed clear to me that he was in a bad mood already and was just taking things out on us.

That’s shit. Be safe in the knowledge that his happy new life isn’t making him happy.

Thanks Selfsetting3 - I am sure that’s right.

Your poor DD. I'd check later that all was well, and if she prefers, pick her up if he was still being a grumpy twat.

Did your dd even want to go with him. I’d have sent him on his way alone

Exactly how old is your teen? If older they can make the decision of whether to go or not.

When you say he was horrible, what exactly did he do?

Dear me, he's allowed to be in a bad mod.

He’s not allowed to take it out on his ex partner and little girl though..

His behaviour is not fair on your DD, but that is who he is and presumably why you are no longer together. My good friend had this situation - she split up with an aggressive man when her little one was about 4 years old, her now grown up DD has little to no relationship with her dad, he will reap what he sows as the years go on. Now that contact is her choice it's almost down to just birthday and Christmas.

Money has bought him the huge house, but if he behaves as he did with your DD this am (very likely although he might hide it well) the family are unlikely to co-exist happily. I'd rather be less well off and know that my DD and I will have a relationship where we love and support each other for the rest of our lives.

Are you worried his going to be vile to your DD ?

Have just come back to this thread. DD is 14 and she is ok - she texted me with some updates! I don’t want to say exactly what he said because that would be quite outing but I don’t think it’s ever ok to be really rude for no reason, given that I have no choice but to open my door to him!

Well, my take on people being allowed to be in a bad mood, is yes, they are. They are not allowed to take it out on others. So if you wouldn't treat your boss, teacher, colleague, or lover how you are treating somebody else that doesn't have that status in your life, that is not okay, so bugger off and take your bad mood with you and come back when you've sorted yourself out.