What age is not young anymore?

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I am 28 and don't feel I qualify as 'young' anymore. Not just because of the grey hairs sprouting from my scalp, but the fact I've now been an adult for 10 years. I would look too old in a nightclub, a lot of the shops I used to buy from a few years ago are now too young for me, and I barely understand what 'the kids' are talking about these days.

I spoke to a friend about this and they said I'm being ridiculous, that I am still young but I don't feel it at all. When did you stop feeling young, or consider yourself not to be young anymore?

'I'm 33 now and definitely feeling old, like pp said, I feel too old to have another baby at my age. My body feels knackered as it is.'

This ^

Good point @MadCattery

I am now 46. I am a goth and I dress like one and not toned down either. I have full makeup and jewellery on. I go clubs, gigs, bars etc. I could not give a damn what people think or say. I don't feel old or anything and I don't look my age. I have some grey hair and virtually no lines or wrinkles. I just think that you should be who you want to be and do what you want, go where you want. Whether or not you feel old. What is feeling old anyway?

At 68 and still very lively, I thought I was still young
If I end up in hospital..it might be a different matter as to how I get treated
That’s a sobering thought

I’d have thought maybe 75or so.

I've just turned 40 and I know I'm not young anymore but certainly not old.Its a weird age.

30 I think.

I'm in my 30s and have realised that being what they class as young or old really doesn't matter. It's how you live your life. I have 2 friends who I met travelling. The wonan is 68 and the man is 74. They have adult children in New Zealand and they go to visit them every two years for around 6 weeks. Everytime they make their way over, they do a bit of travelling. I met them in Vietnam, where they were for a month as a stopover on their way to NZ. Their retirement has been travelling the world, they have amazing lives. Give me their life anyday over that of a 'young' person whose life consists of mediocrity and not much else. I have friends who I've had since school and their lives just seem like day to day drudgery to me (of course that's just my opinion).

So yeah, I'd rather be 'old' but have an amazing life than 'young' and have a boring life of absolute mediocrity.

I'm 27 and still feel young but not too young.

@fantasmagoria1 I love your attitude!

I'm young and 40 next year
I felt old at 32 when my pelvis was creaking with SPD and everything hurt and I was shuffling around and struggling with a tough toddler.

DGM and MiL were both bemused at all the "old" people in their 60s while they were well into their 70s.

Being mentally young and open minded helps a lot with a good dose of health.

I want to dance at my 80th birthday party like my DGM #lifegoals

I felt old when I hit 40. I sometimes forget and feel young then I catch a glimpse on the mirror 😭 or my kids are being extremely trying or my husband is being the grumpy old man that he is (he's 11 years older but sometimes think he is 20+ years older!).

So yeah, 40 I reckon.

It's 32. That's the cut off.

38

It’s all about context. Most of my work colleagues are at least 10-15 years older than me, so even though I turn 37 in a few weeks they all see me as young. The students we have coming through on placement on the other hand lump us all together and see us as “old” and themselves as “young”. To be fair they’re probably right

I always find the difference between my parents and my in-laws startling. They’re the same age but my in-laws mention their age and how they’re not as young as they used to be and that they might downsize and get somewhere they could have a stairlift regularly. If you asked my mum about her stairlift plans she’d give you a thick ear

I don't think its got anything to do with age. It's all about how you feel personally.

I agree with the last too posters.

When I met dh, he still had 2 Grandmothers alive. They were born in the same year, and, healthwise both were fine. However, one was definitely an "old lady" but the other didn't seem old until the day she dies some 20 years later. Their outlook on life was so different. Grandma 1 just sat in and watched soap operas or read, and got my FiL to do anything that needed doing. Grandma 2 would be up ad have cleaned the house or done a wash before going out somewhere once the bus passes kicked in at 9.30. Then they would be out and about visiting someone or somewhere or going to a different place to shop or for a walk to to attend an event. They were big gardeners and grew own veg - pickled own beetroot and onions etc, cut the lawn etc well into their 80s. Were always interested in what the granchildren and then great grandchildren were doing.
I know some people struggle with ill health, but there are a lot of people that are old because of their attitude.

You're old when policemen and teachers look young to you. HTH.

Or when High Court judges look young...

I got married very young and had 4 DC before 30, so now when people find out my age, the reaction is invariably ‘but you don’t look old enough!’ which makes me feel young.
But when I was in my 20s I felt a lot older than my peers due to my life situation, I wasn’t out drinking etc.

I belong to an organisation that has a “young members weekend”. You have to be 35 or under. I felt old the first year I couldn’t go!

I’m in the middle of 4 siblings. My eldest and youngest siblings provide my mobile boundaries of what is old and young.

I've always thought about 35 and now approaching that age I'm sticking with it.

I remember being about 21-22 and meeting a bunch of 40 somethings at what was supposed to be an 18-30 group. They seemed so old. I think being young at heart is awesome but being 40 and convinced you are indistinguishable from a 20 year old is depressing.

When you realise you are closer to 40 than 30.

Saying that, all of my 30s felt like a great decade. In my head I am still 35, my optimum age. In the mirror I am 54.