Registering a birth - mother's surname

[RainMinusBow]

So stressed out!!
I am aware births are currently not being registered. However...
Due a baby end of May with my fiancé.
I've been legally divorced for around three years but not officially changed back to my family name as fiancé and I plan to marry in next couple of years and it seemed a bit mad to change surname twice.
Problem is, I REALLY don't want ex-husband's surname anywhere on the birth certificate. He was/is an abuser of epic proportions.
Is there anything I can do documentation-wise to have my family ("maiden") name that I am now known by written on the birth certificate?

You can use use your birth surname, this is screen shot from Citizens Advice

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/scotland/family/birth-certificates-and-changing-your-name-s/changing-your-name-s/

You can change your name without registering a deed poll - I did!

Just look up 'change of name declaration template' online, it's a really simple process where you declare you wish to be known as xxx then you need to get 2 people to witness it (I asked my best friends, just wrote their full names and addresses and signed it). Never been asked to provide any further information or ID to prove any of it. Post-covid send a copy to change passport, driving licence etc. Can't imagine the registrar would need to see anything more to prove your maiden name.

But the op doesn't need to do that Stronger. She is legally entitled to use her maiden name without doing anything. It might be a good idea to change the name on passport and driving license at some point, but that's about it.

@frazzledasarock That's what I'm concerned about as all of my proof of adress docs, utility bills, passport etc are in my married (divorced) name. The only thing I have in my family name (I got flamed once on the feminism chat for calling it my maiden name) is my birth certificate.
Would that be evidence enough not to include my married name on baby's certificate?

The only thing I have in my family name (I got flamed once on the feminism chat for calling it my maiden name) is my birth certificate.

That’s not strictly true, is it? Your marriage very has your original name on it, and you have proof of divorce. If there isn’t time to change any photo ID, I’d take those three things plus proof of address.

They may just work from your hospital details anyway, which are sent through, so i would make sure your medical and maternity records are in your own name, if they’re not already.

Marriage CERTIFICATE not “marriage very”

@ArriettyJones Thank you. I did ask my GP surgery when I first registered my pregnancy if I could have my family name on my notes and they said no, not without a deed poll. They wouldn't change my medical notes to family name either.

I'm not going to hospital to have my baby so not sure how it works re hospital records and registering birth?

www.gov.uk/register-birth

This says that you need one form of ID, which can be a birth certificate. I really think you're making this more complicated than it needs to be.

@knittingaddict Do you think my GP surgery was incorrect re not changing name back without a deed poll? They wouldn't accept my birth certificate.

Yes, I do.

Rain according to the registrar I had it wasn’t as it only had my maiden name and no evidence that was my birth certificate as every other document showed married name.

You can order a certified copy of your wedding certificate here. It’s very easy, not sure how quick it is when I ordered a few years back it arrived within a week.

I’ve kept it as it’s useful to have when I least expect it!

I’m guessing OP doesn’t have a copy of her marriage certificate as the solicitors take it and submit it to court when you’re divorcing and you never get it back.

Its useful to have a copy though.

When I had my daughter me and my now husband were not married. We married when she was 3 and you have to re register the birth because in the eyes of the law she was born 'illegitimate'. By re registering she becomes 'legitimate'. (Actually not sure if you actually HAVE to or if it's optional and if you don't want to you don't have to). Original birth certificate gets destroyed and new one issued. So with her original certificate it had my maiden name, but the new one has my married name.
So if for some reason you end up having to put your ex's name when you re register after your wedding it can be changed.
Although I can't see why you won't be able to use your maiden (family) name. I should imagine your birth certificate + marriage cert + divorce paperwork will be fine.
(We didn't have to show any ID when my daughter was born 12 years ago though!)

Your maiden name is your legal name - your married name is only taken as a courtesy, unless you changed it by deed poll to double barrel it.

OP my situation is almost identical excluding the abusive ex. Wish I'd never changed my name first time.
Midwives would only use the name on my ID on my notes, same case applied when we registered the birth and again when my partner & I gave notice to get married. In marriage they will put what you want on the cert, but giving notice must be as you are known by and what is on your ID. You can state "formerly known as" though.
The other thing to note is that if you are in England, when you marry, you will need to re-register the birth, and you get a new certificate.